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Hospice is for people with about 6 months or less of life expectancy. The goal is also for patient comfort.
If you are concerned about her medications, ask her doctor about which medications are still effective - like the ones that help her RA to stay in remission and feel more comfortable - and those that can be discontinued - most likely the early meds for her dementia.
RA meds typically lower pain. I would keep those.
They got someone fast! They said the will only matters after she was deceased. Not true but title companies have strict guidelines. One thing I did talk to mom about before she declined was what kind of flowers she liked. We picked out beautiful flowers for her funeral, she enjoyed that. You know even the best made plans have glitches.
She’s been on hospice for 5 months. A nurse visits once a week for vitals, a CNA assist with showering her Monday through Friday, a chaplain visits about once a month or every other month, the social worker and doctor visited once. They send cheap quality supplies weekly; a pack of diapers, wipes, bed pads, cleanser, and ointment. Since what they send is not close to enough, I still have to order her usual supplies as before.
She was formally diagnosed with dementia by her former PCP in January 2020. When he got tired of dealing with her and told me to find another doctor, I told him to refer her for a palliative assessment.
So she moved under Palliative care but when she contracted an upper respiratory infection, Hospice came to evaluate her and she qualified.
The nurse visits comes to check on her every week. A social worker comes every 6 weeks and a Nurse Practitioner comes every 6-8 weeks to reassess her. My mother is declining, and although it's typically small changes, it does keep her qualified for Hospice under Medicare and her Medigap supplement.
We’re there with my dad, no ability to know how long he’s going to be with us.
The geriatrician said to take him to the hospital, where my dad told everyone he encountered that he wanted to die and why couldn’t they euthanize him. He actually perked up and became a lot more alert and talkative while there, just from the intravenous fluids. I am grateful for some of the conversations we were able to have that day.
Anyway, he had been losing tremendous amounts of weight and they diagnosed adult failure to thrive which was the key to the hospice referral in his case. I think the other way would have been to get a definitive diagnosis of terminal cancer, but he didn’t want to cooperate with the tests the various drs were calling for to confirm the diagnosis.
I am very grateful to hospice. They did switch him to palliative medicines only at that point and no more need for Dr appts. He lived another 4 months at home and spent only the last 3 nights of his life in a hospice facility. That too I am very grateful for as he had round the clock oxygen and morphine and multiple people caring for him around the clock. Best wishes to you.
Anyway, worth a shot. See if his primary Dr. will do a referral to a hospice company. Sometimes they can help move things along. If they do an evaluation & say he doesn’t qualify yet, ask what specifics they are looking for where they would approve him. I believe there is a waiting period (not long) before you can have him assessed again, but they should let you know what that is. Most hospice companies are very helpful, but some are not trained as much with dementia patients that will live for awhile. If one doesn’t work out, try a different company & don’t be afraid to ask questions about their dementia training.
if you are offered hospice care for a loved one I would highly recommend that you accept.
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And speak to her MD. S/he should have already discussed this with you / the family / who has legal authorization to make these decisions.
Gena / Touch Matters
Only give meds that help keep her comfortable. Some might be curative and keep her out of pain.
Keep her out of pain even if it extends her life. That’s okay, Right?
Speak to moms doctor about writing an order for a hospice evaluation. Palliative care does review all the meds a patient is on, but tends to add IN prescriptions. If you feel moms on too many, ask PC to remove the ones that are not offering her pain relief or depression/anxiety relief.
Good luck!!