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She is in assisted living in the memory care area that is locked. She has her own room with bath, a flat screen TV, cable and a small fridge that I keep stocked with water for her. Very nice room. There's a small courtyard that is also locked. She can go and sit outside whenever she pleases. Three chef-prepared meals per day and snacks and her behavior to others is just as nasty as it can be. I take her for outings to her favorite restaurant, get her hair cut and she has a good time. Yes, and she is even nasty to me.
Discussed with my sister who lives in another state and we decided she needs to be on something so that she won't be so nasty. Be more docile, agreeable and tolerable. Not a zombie. A chill pill of some kind. Make no mistake, she is my mom, I love her and will always be there for her but the nastiness MUST be dealt with. So, a chill pill for her it is! Her doctor will be assessing her to see what is appropriate and I have the understanding that it will take a few weeks to take effect.
Whatever you need to do to help your dad chill out absolutely do not feel bad about it. I'm done feeling bad about it. And I had to learn to stop beating myself up about the way things are and take care of myself. God bless and take care of yourself for your own sanity.
Leaving the room is easy enough for family, but harder for caregivers. Is there anything in particular that sets him off? Or is it a random thing? If there is something in particular, you might warn them how to handle it. Other than that, I don't know what to recommend. Let his doctor know that he is having incidents of rage. His doctor may have an idea of what might help.