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Um. Is there anything to do with your father's *care* that you would like to see done differently; and would that depend on a more detailed, better defined diagnosis?
The point being that, before you push for investigations and diagnostics, make sure there's a worthwhile aim to them.
Otherwise, what harm is there in polite discretion?
A doctor has given a diagnosis. If Dad's sister won't accept that, why do you think she would accept it from another doctor?
Does her denial cause problems for your dad? For example, does she scold him when he wets himself? Insist that he go to the dining room alone? Generally expect him to do things he is not able to do and then get mad at him?
What would change if you got a second opinion and it confirmed that he has ALZ, or identified some other dementia type? There are no cures for dementia. There aren't even reliable treatments.
Why doesn't his sister see what you see? As CM says, she doesn't want to. And she is just a year younger than her brother. If he has dementia, that sure shows how vulnerable elders are. Pretty scary at age 90.
I think they key issue that others raised is whether your father's care is being hindered by the denial? If not, then I'd probably just drop it. I wanted an official diagnosis for my mom, but realized there's no cure, no good treatment, and putting her through the stress of the assessment would be way too much for her.
Keep an eye on things from a distance and make sure his overall care is being handled. He will decline as this disease runs it's course, so can you start thinking of things now that may help down the road? (Sometimes instead of asking my parents in advance when I know they'd turn down my assistance, I just do things and noticed they never stop me.)
Also by the way, your dad sounds like a gem of man. I love that he's still got the personality and wit that carried him through his chosen profession. It is touching to know that some of those key aspects of our character never leave us.
My late Dad was a whiz at Jeopardy, but as he started to venture on the path of dementia, and needed more help with his care, so went away his ability to answer questions on Jeopardy. But Dad was able to keep his sense of humor, simple silly stuff that would get us laughing.
So there could be parts of his brain that still are active such as Jeopardy answers.