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If your parents have dementia, there is no reasoning with them. They are receptive to anything your sister and BIL tell them. Unless you are very cash strapped and are paying very minimal rent, I’d get the heck out of Dodge. Find an apartment that has no ties to any of them. If you have a key to their house, give it to Sis, NOT to your parents. They will forget you gave it to them. The fact that your parents would force their own child to take a lie detector test and not even to trust their child to go on their own but feel the need to accompany them to witness the result is beyond incomprehensible to me.
You are obviously not trusted by these people, for whatever reason. They will keep making accusations. Sis and BIL will keep putting ideas in their broken brains. Get out now. Make your own life without them.
My Mom and I had lived together for 9 years when in 2017, my Mom was hospitalized and then moved into a nursing home. My Mom has Major Depression with Delusions and Mild Dementia. Unfortunately, my Mom accused my brother and I of stealing from her and gambling away our farms. Luckily I was able to produce all receipts and could account for every penny spent. But I almost had to move out of the house that I had lived in for 9 years. I freaked out when I heard that. I think that you need to take the first step and move out of the house that your parents own. That way they can't force you to move unexpectedly and at an inopportune time for you financially.
As Ahmijoy said, " You are obviously not trusted by these people, for whatever reason...Get out now. Make your own life without them." I am so sorry that it is your parents that distrust you. May God be with you during this time of trouble and heartache.
are saying it wont get better and it could get a whole lot worse. Move away, the
farther the better!!! Know you've got good company when it comes to being the
odd one out with a dysfunctional family. ((((hugs))))
I agree, you need to move. Just forget about the repairs, doubt if you'd get your money back. You may never know why they treat you the way they do. My GF is still trying to figure this out and she is 69. For some reason her Mom never loved her. To the point she sent her away every Summer to visit relatives. She has asked these relatives and they don't answer her. Very sad.
You may have to pack your belongings and move them to a storage unit for safe keeping while you look for an apartment or house. Sounds weird, but considering the way that your family has treated you; I wouldn't put it past them to go through all of your belongings that you have boxed up to see if you are taking any of their property. {SIGH}
I have some concern that the polygraph exam may decrease the number of apartment complexes or home rental companies that will rent to you. So when you talk to the manager, ask them what type of background check do they do prior to renting you an apartment or a house. You may have to tell the manager about the polygraph--but wait and see what information the apartment complex or house rental company wants before volunteering that you had to take a polygraph exam.
Good Luck and God Bless.
around money. :( :( . Go idea about putting stuff in storage. Maybe snap photos and
inventory everything you take in case of more accusations. So very sorry you're having
to go through this ordeal. Consider getting a room in a house with other friendly people
if possible. It can save $ and might boost your spirits. :)