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Have your Mom see her primary doctor for an UTI test, which is fairly easy or take Mom to an urgent care as they can also run such tests while you wait. Antibiotics can help get rid of the UTI.
I vote do not help her replace her phone, don't pay for it set, order it, set it up, etc. I'm not sure how she will react, but you need to think about her "victims" if she gets a new phone. Maybe you can tell her that her inappropriate calls resulted in an "anonymous" complaint to the police and if it happens even 1 more time, she'll be in bigger trouble. Therefore you will help her by placing any important calls for her with your phone, yourself. See if you can come up with some other activity to replace her idle time: doing food prep for you, cutting old t-shirts into rags that you need, folding piles of kitchen towels (not real laundry but purchased just for this purpose), sorting coins, anything. I hope you can work out a peaceful solution with her in this situation.
The decision is hers to make. if she wants to replace her phone, help her to do that - only if she broke it, she pays for it.
You have to stop taking responsibility for things that are not your responsibility, and that includes her trouble-making.
NO. Get some boundaries here. Very BIG ones.
Your phone. Your use only.
Same as with toddlers.
Your opinion is her phone usage has not been appropriate (to put it mildly).
If Mom was independent, she could get herself to a shop for repair or replace, be able to understand & pay the bill for a new one..
If she is not.. well then.. since you don't agree with her phone behaviour, you have no need to enable it.
Phone stays broken. End of.
"I am at the end of my rope and tired of all the chaos and drama in my house."
IMO, the phone was her vehicle/outlet to release her toxic venom onto other people. Without that outlet, where can she, a narcissistic evil person, spew her toxic garbage? My guess would be onto you and your family.
You are at the end of your rope now. Soon, where will you be?
She is not entitled to ruin your life just because she is your mother. She belongs in a facility where she can't cause as much harm to you and other people.
I would not replace the phone.
If you take away her phone and only let her use yours for important calls, I guarantee you she'll have An Important Call to make 24/7. You can't reason with an Elder who has dementia, and they're totally self centered and self absorbed to the exclusion of all else...like OCD on steroids.
So, my suggestion is to hide her phone for a bit, letting her think its gone, and she can use yours for important calls. See how it goes. Play it by ear. If you're ready to rip your hair out in 2 hours, give her her phone back and look into managed care of some kind for her. THEN take her phone and put in a landline.