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Is there no one who could take her in temporarily until she could get used to the idea of new placement? Even if you were moving her into a regular apartment, it would be new and unfamiliar. Also, I would not dismiss her concerns about the facility she is in. Even the best ones do not provide the TLC she would receive from a family environment.
We are not judging your family's decision, but with the info. you provided, I hope you understand that it seems a little harsh that she was moved so quickly.
did you ask her why shes not happy with this one and why she wants to go other places ? work with her and let her have a choice of her own .
i do agree with xtanice , - not to visit for 3 to 5 days , let her calm down but plz do ask her why shes not happy there ?
my dad has dementia , he still has his mind and gives me good pointers , something bothers him i ll be sure to fix it .
she lost a husband last 4 weeks ago and bam she has to move , it is one big heartbreakin . if that was me i would be so crush !
Your mother will get used to it eventually. Give her some time to acclimate to being thrown into the deep end so to speak. And after 6 months she still wants to change to a different place, and not just say she 'hates' it there but actually wants to go somewhere OTHER than the place she's in, I'd listen to her.
So in looking back to my comment about mild demential, I think we've been fooling ourselves.
Fast forward to where we are now, she is about at the stage of Laurieq200's mom. We are so afraid that she will end up in the memory unit. She called me and didn't know where she was and totally forgot that I had been to see her the last two days. She said that she didn't know why we put her there?? I've been told that you just need to comfort her and not argue with her since you will never win an argument with someone who has dementia. So will the resistance ever end, I don't really know. I was told that it could take from 3 to 12 months for her to feel like it's her home. However, now they're not so sure.
With your mom Zimlady, that could happen. However, I was never told that her dementia would get so much worse. I guess we were fooling ourselves and she was much worse than we thought.
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