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Was your dad moved to nursing home for temporary rehab from his illness? Or is he now in long term care? Him being of "sound mind" is your non-medical opinion...has he had a cognitive exam? Often if an elder has recently had anesthesia it impacts their mental function afterwards, sometimes permanently.
Is your StepMIL's name on the title to the house or other properties? The financial PoA may be selling the house to pay for his care... you don't seem to know details for certain so I'm not sure there is anything you can do other than consult with an elder law attorney who specializes in elder abuse. This attorney will assess what evidence you have and decide if it is strong enough to pursue into court. You will be liable to pay the legal fees.
They may be making a huge mistake in selling his assets since this would most likely delay or disqualify him for Medicaid, should he need it. Again, consult an attorney -- that's the only person who can really help you in this situation.
For now you are left with your Dad and your love for him, and a stepmom who is the lioness at the gate, who decides if you can even SEE your father. The important thing is yours and his relationship and your support of him now while he is ill. I would get along with all and leave matters of money and property to the side, as, in all frankness, it is too late now.
I want to add that if this NH is permanent, then I hope your stepmom is doing everything by the book. If your Dad needs Medicaid down the line, there is a 5 year look back and any money that was Dads, at least 50% of the marital assets, better be intact. Because there will be penalties if money was given to his Sdaughter that could have been used towards his care. So dear Stepmom may be digging herself a hole she cannot get out of.
You may want to consult with an elder lawyer to see how Dad can be protected. May not be able to do anything because she is his wife. A Will will not even help at this point if Dad left anything to you and she spends it all before you inherit. Guess you would have to sue her at that time?