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I believe you’re very correct, there are risks either way, just as there are in all of life. Our family is continuing to see my dad while being cautious about it. No one thinks it’s a foolproof plan. But the facts are he needs checking on, and the socialization is equally if not more important. He doesn’t do anything online so that’s not an option. We need to check in and we will, knowing and accepting the risks. I wish you the best with your plans
caringfordaddy, Sounds like a good plan. I stopped all visitors coming to our home. Only immediate family allowed. I have been communicating with family members via telephone. Checking in every day. Glad your dad has you checking on him.
If/when you enter his house wash your hands.
Keep a distance from him.
Wash your hands before you prepare any food and before you eat.
If you do not feel well do not visit.
God sent to me. Also, no commercials. My wife an d I live alone. She
has Alzheimers and does not communicate very much. I am her only
caregiver at this time. This is our fun time in the evenings. We can watch tv
reruns and movies at anytime of the day or night. It takes a little while to
used to using Netflix but after that you will find it to be quite simple.
I had to leave home my mom's carers and there is no way that she could survive total social isolation for weeks. Also, this could be longer than weeks, think of Wuhan, they've been in a lockdown for 2 months.
My solution has been to become her only in-person carer + social contact ; for this I'm self-isolating completely too. I haven't been seeing anyone else for more than 2 weeks now and haven't gone out anymore. I also try to keep at 2m distance from her, no hugs, no sharing of glasses, dishes etc, as I could be potentially positive.
Just my 2 cents, because I think you have an important point here.
There are so many seniors receiving home care services that allow them to remain in the home. I think that if you are careful, weekly visits are going to be fine.
I hope it works. Just copy and paste..
I do not think is good idea.
It is a risk for you to visit. Does he understand what is going on? Maybe you could go there and meet him outdoors to talk for a while - lawn chairs, patio, etc.
Total isolation is too tough. It may be months before it's anywhere near safe for frail people to be out and about. In fact, there may be no return to 'normal' for them for a very, very long time and, at 91, at some point, he may start asking himself if the reward is worth the risk. The quality of days vs the quantity.
It is so stressful that we're having to think in these ways.
Have you seen patients with diarrhea? I wonder why no one is talking about it.
I live in CA. Been in Stay At Home mode for awhile now. I am going to visit my dad who is a young 79. But, I will take all the precautions I can. The way I see it is if something were to happen I would hate for him to be by himself. I've weighed the pros & cons. Being alone just isn't how I'm going to deal with it.
I live with my 92yr MIL and 68 BIL who is blind with autism so I am being diligent.
Do what you feel is best for your situation.
Best to all,
Kim
Let's be realistic.
Now's the time to make phone calls - a couple of times a day. Save things up to talk about - how you planted mini daffodils in the neighbor's lawn as a little surprise, the new recipes you're trying with the groceries you have at hand, whatever!!!
Had a good chat tonight with my brother (the one who NEVER calls her- too sensitive, I think) suggesting that letters/pictures from his kids would be soooo helpful. That's something he can do at arms length, (despite how PO'd I am with him.) She's in assisted living, a couple of blocks from the latest outbreak in care facilities. It's only a matter of time.
My sense is to make her happy for now.