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Your doctor is right. Pick your battles.
Better to concede than try to fight daily with DH about what he wears to bed.
Your sanctuary was gone when DH developed dementia.
You may have to find a new place to draw the line in the sand.
This behavior will pass and another take its place.
Perhaps you could wash or remove all his clothes you feel contaminate your space?
Then put the other items he might need for when the climate changes out of his sight.
I’m sorry it is so difficult.
You do not have to sleep with him, either he would move to another bedroom or I would.
I'd sleep separately if it were me, and let him sleep in whatever clothes he wants. It's only a matter of time before incontinenence or some other offputting behavior forces you to separate beds anyway, realistically. Because you will NOT get thru to a dementia patient no matter what, period. You can remove his outdoor gear from the closet and see what happens, but prepare yourself for the next behavioral issue that comes down the pike. It's the nature of the beast, unfortunately. You need to start taking the approach of what's best for YOU now. And how to make your comfort a priority.
Best of luck to you.
You may need to change a lot more things in the future, as things get harder.
Many of these things seem to go in phases, might be his clothes this week something else next , ya just gotta go with the flow.
Just be careful he doesn't get to hot. I would do what others said, pack much of his clothes away.
Get separate twin size beds, and on his put a waterproof mattress cover on right away before the first episode of incontinence in his new bed .
I do think overall, no matter how clever and determined, the time for care has come, and honestly that is up to you, and only you can make those decisions. I surely do wish you the best.
Or you could put him in memory care.
He will only worsen. You may want to consider placing him in memory care if u can afford it, if not LTC with Medicaid. An Elder Lawyer can help you split your assets. His split going to his care and when almost gone, you apply for Medicaid. As the Community Spouse you remain in the home, have a car and enough of ur montly income to live on.
If you just can't control his nighttime habits or it gets to be too much for you, then please consider MC.