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PS Be grateful that it's only one car - car club members usually have more, including one lunatic who has 11 Cortinas. And he's not even a dementia candidate.
To make matters worse, the state forced him to take a driving test, which he failed a few days ago. I'm certain he failed as I entered his license number into the DMV system and it came up SUSPENDED. Imagine my surprise (perhaps not) when I saw him driving just yesterday! Our family is at our wits end. Our town even has a FREE taxi service which will take people over 65 to all their appointments - including the grocery store 6 days a week.
What now? Do we call the police or report him to his insurance company?
Please don't suggest we go to his house and remove the car. Now that he's become violent (he has always been verbally abusive) we are not willing to take that risk.
What do you think? If a child is being harmed, an animal being tortured, or some other heinous crime being committed would you question whether or not the police should be called? Would you hesitate yourself to call them?
I don't think you would. Yet you are allowing a violent, abusive 92 year-old who not only physically assaulted you, but also lost his driver's license because he's so out-of-it with dementia that the state had to cancel it to continue on whatever rampage he feels like because you won't call the cops.
What the hell is wrong with you and your siblings?
If the old fool gets behind the wheel and causes an accident or kills someone how will you and your siblings live with youselves having let it happen because no one even tried to prevent it? Simply picking up a phone and calling the insurance company or going down to the police station to tell them what's going on is too much for the lot of you to handle?
If you and your siblings cannot literally remove the car which if you were serious about doing you could, you can certainly still disable it. Someone needs to quietly go over there some night when he's sleeping and cut all the tires. That won't make a sound.
So let him kill or seriously injure someone because he "lashed out" at you and hit you.
Please do the community he lives in a favor and go to the police and contact APS. Tell them a violent yet vulnerable elder with serious dementia who lost their license is driving around and assaulting people with his cane. They will take action. Then get him put in a locked memory care facility. Do whatever you have to do to get conservatorship or let the state get it to make that happen.
I have my Mom’s car and if I decided to sell it, I would deposit the money into her account that also lists myself and my brother and then I would document very clearly how that money was used for HER. HER only.
Financial POA is to act on behalf of the person and to conduct matters in their financial interest. So use it if you have it and it's in the best interest of your parents.
I don't understand the comment on putting the money back that you've been losing. Do you mean using the sale of the vehicle to pay yourself back?
It maybe time to find a nice AL to place them.
Place your parents out of your home.
If you and your family are living with your parents, please move. You are responsible for your daughter. This is her childhood.
There are posters on this forum who were raised with bickering grandparents in the home. It will forever scar your daughter. She would be better off in day care after school while you work 8 to 5.
Yes their words were hurtful but you are in charge and your number one responsibility is to your child.
If the plan is to send him to AL (and it probably should be)then liquidating an asset for cash is in his best interests because the AL will have to be paid for.
Sell the car. Then put him in AL and get everyone else out of your house.
If you are, given your documents say you can buy and sell things, yes, you can sell it.
Take your POA to the DMV and ask them how to go about this in your own state.
You have taken on POA and activated it because your parents are not now capable of good financial decisions, and this is but one example. This care will soon be worthless and have to be hauled off. Let you father know it is being sold and why and that there is no argument about it and that you understand it is one more loss in a whole world of loss for them, but that this is how it has to be to prevent deterioration of the car, theft of the care, costs of the car for no reason.
Be certain, of course, that the money from sale goes to their accounts, which I assume you are managing, and that a good paper trail is there.
I am assuming your father has no good window seat on this car and won't be witness to all involved in its sale. I hope not, anyway.