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May I know why your brothers would report you to APS? Why? Did they tell you why? Or in past conversations showed disapproval of you/mom?
It's apparent from your post that you HAVE been leaving mom home alone. Perhaps it was the doctor who reported you. They are mandated reporters after all.
And raise the issue of your brother's non-participation and ask APS for suggestions. They probably won't have any that you haven't thought of, but it demonstrates your attempt to provide 24/7 care for your mother by bringing in the brothers.
And you definitely need to report the break-in. Were you there when they broke in? Did you call the police?
Do start keeping a diary of everything!! I have been keeping one since mid October of '14 because things were getting pretty bad and I needed more help. I gave it Mom's doctor in two portions so that I had some backup. I also got a letter from the physical therapist we had for a while - she recommended more supervision as well. Keep emails and text messages from your brothers, too. My brother has shut me out of Mom's care as of last week, and she will not see me. I am hoping that her doctor calls as well. (((HUGS))). It sounds like you have done what you can, but if she is being left alone - that is one big problem. A very dangerous problem.
APS are there to make sure that everything is OK they don't want brilliance they don't want spectacular they just want safety and security and good health. In my experience of this type of person (they aren't called that in the UK) they are very non committal and just take notes. Watch there faces - it will tell you all you need to know.
You never know maybe they will tell you to spend money on things - that will upset your siblings. If they do eventually get POA that will be interesting .... god help your Mum would be my first comment because you acted on professional advice. But can you imagine how much work they are going to have to do to satisfy you that all is well!!!! it's almost comical or would be if they weren't so horrid. Typical though don't want to do anything themselves but still find time to criticise those who do.
all the work!