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WHY did you agree to do this? Please don't write that it's what Mama deserves, because she was such a wonderful mother. If she was that wonderful, then she wouldn't have raised your 3 sibs to be the selfish people that they are.
What happens if YOU get sick and can't take care of her?
If you insist on continuing with this martyrdom, your sibs should pay for relief help for you. Why do they care how much of her SS check is being spent? Do they expect to inherit something? What are you rmother's finances? i really hope the four of you aren't equal beneficiaries to any estate or trust - YOU deserve it all.
Can your mother go to a hospice facility?
What do you mean, they "took" his insurance policy payout? Were they the beneficiaries? You weren't a beneficiary? Why wasn't your mother the beneficiary?
"My mom has willed everything she owns to me but unfortunately living in Louisiana they will get dads 50% interest."
So your mom was cheated out of your dad's life insurance policy payout, yet according to LA law your sibs will get your dead father's 50% interest? Why can't the will state that you get it all?
Does your mother appear to be able to go on indefinitely?
Instead find people & services that CAN help you. It can be a longer road than you think, as you have found.
Prioritise your Mom's care & your own. Do what you can to make life easier. Can groceries, meals & meds be delivered for now?
Send a group txt out only if the situation changes.
I doubt I would be replying at all to txts about money at all at this time..
Athough if I was on the other side, I suppose I could be asking if spare money existed so it could be used for extra help? Like in-home aides?
This must be overwhelming. Please speak to Hospice, Mom's Doctor, your Doctor about extra help. End stage illness requires a team. (I do not know what illness/issue your Mother has).
You mentioned you were/are an RN. I found this noble group often step-up into caregiving but the downside can be lacking respect for self-care, not taking breaks. A tendency towards being Superman/Superwoman. Or feeling like if you don't do everything, you have failed. Just ensure you are not falling in those holes.
Adding more help is not failing. It is just ADDING more help.