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It sounds like you have a great idea to bring him an ice cream cake - everyone loves an ice cream cake...and that's a very thoughtful gesture back to him in return!
And I DO see this as perfect for the "Discussion" portion ....Thank you for sharing it!
Sending my very best wishes ~
This man has tried to "woo" your mom. She is clearly not interested.
If you were not in the room he may have said inappropriate things to her or tried once again to get her interested in him.
And if he can not take a "hint" telling him that she is tired and asking him to leave.
And personally I never liked people to show up un announced or un invited when I was caring for my Husband. A stranger has no idea what it is like as a caregiver and where you are in the daily routine of caregiving.
So...if you have this mans number and if your mom wants him to visit again call him up and say, "mom would love to see you when she is more able to have visitors. Thursday mid morning is a good time and you can join us for lunch"
If mom does not want to see him again that also should be communicated to him, in a gentle way.
Nice that the man came to visit. Is Mom in her 90s? If so, she probably is tired. Maybe she is not into him as much as he is her. Ask him to next time call ahead to see if Mom feels like company.
Mom said she was "tired". I suspect mom is feeling a bit stalked by a suitor she has rejected.
I would make that lovely ice cream cake and give it to mom. I think she has a great way of getting rid of unwanted suitors.
As to a guy in his mid 90s pursuing a gal in her mid-nineties, one has to kind of wonder if he wants to be a caregiver, or wants care?
And one just MUST worry about his being in all that traffic.
Seriously, C., would talk to mom before giving any sort of attention that this sweet fellow may mistake for encouragement. But I have to say, this post gave me the giggles, and that's ALWAYS a good thing!
Man , no matter how many life lessons are thrown at me I still only see good in people😵💫