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That first paragraph of yours is, sadly the goal.
Your mother DOES need to have the ambulance called and for that ambulance to delivery her to that facility so that she can get diagnosed properly and then placed FROM THE HOSPITAL with the help of their social workers, into care.
Sorry, but there is really no other answer than the answers you already researched for yourself, were given, and so far are unwilling to do.
Until you are willing to take the needed steps this will go on, and you are enabling an unsafe situation.
If you and mom are lucky she will pass in her own home in some accident. More likely is that you will find her on the floor with broken bones and THEN all this will be done.
There are sadly no good answers when it comes to this.
You say that the facility mom would be taken to with her violent outbursts is "not a good place to be". No, of course it isn't. Who would want to go to a psyc facility. But it is the place SHE BELONGS and the place she NEEDS TO BE. Sadly.
I wish I had a magic wand, or was a Saint and could make you a miracle, but there are no good answers here. And you will spend capital you hold in mental and physical health until you realize this must be handled. As I said, mom doesn't have a good prognosis no matter how this is handled. She may prefer to die on the floor at home. And that may be the best option for her. But at some point you will be left with doing the only thing you CAN do that seems even minimally "right".
I am so very very sorry. I am SO sorry.
If you are not her PoA or legal guardian you don't have much legal power to make decisions for her anyway. You need to step back from being her rescuer: don't clean her house or shop for her or take her places. Keep calling APS so they see the *real* situation, not what you are propping up and enabling. You are delaying the most likely solution that is available in this situation.
I'm so sorry for how distressing this is. It will get worse for a while but then things will improve. I wish you peace in your heart as you work through this.