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There may be a notary at the rehab facility as well. They may even have the forms you need or can give you advice as to where to get them.
You can have a medical poxy and living will notarized at the same time you do the durable POA. Make sure it is a durable POA that she signs. A lawyer would be useful in regards to explaining what your mom needs and how it is used. Maybe that would help your mom feel better about giving this power to you. But this can be costly. You may find a lawyer who does pro bono work (free) and can give you advice.
Being her POA only gives you the power to sign for her, you are not responsible for her bills. I wish you well, I know how hard it is for some parents to face the fact they have to give up a little power to be properly cared for. I am in this battle with my mother at this moment. She has given my brother POA but has no living will or medical proxy. And she has no alternate on the POA.
That is another issue. If there is someone else you trust, make them the alternate POA. This is for the times you can not act as POA or if you, God forbid, die. Without an alternate and if your mother is incompetent, someone would ahve to seek guardianship. Now that is a can of worms.
Good luck to you
Maybe she felt you were stronger than her daughter, maybe she didn't want her daughter to have to make decisions, maybe her daughter was young and silly, maybe she knew that her daughter was planning to move to Alaska, I don't know.
-assuming your family communicates reasonably well and gets along OK:
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If you want to check, I think it would be OK to ask your sister, while you two are alone, if she would like to change the POA. It doesn't have to be confrontational, after all, medical conditions and family situations change - I think you are being thoughtful by your concern.
From personal experience, I wonder, does her daughter want the POA? You see, I don't want it. I did that for my grandmother and I don't want to do it for my mother. So, if her daughter has not said she wants to do this, then sleep on it before you say anything.
And, having the POA doesn't have to be a big confrontation. If you feel it is right, you can discuss decisions with her daughter and other family members. Having the POA doesn't mean you have to make all decisions in a vacuum.
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Just remember that what you do has to be the best for your sister only, and you have to do what you believe is right, not necessarily convenient for others.
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. Keeping the family informed on changes and developments and, in some cases, decisions you make, is very helpful. This may be quite tiring for you after a long day - I find that emails are easier than a bunch of phone calls.
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If your family is like mine and communicates, well, poorly:
The above suggestions do not apply to my family. If people are angry or confrontational, and you feel comfortable talking to them to find out why they are angry, go ahead. If you do not feel comfortable doing that, then you have no obligation to anyone except your sister - just because you are the POA does not mean you have to be the family therapist for a bunch of crazy people. You don't have to fix anyone's relationships. This is why I do not want the POA for my Mom - we siblings are, um, just not real good at "the talking thing."
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Helping family members pay their rent is not part of the POA. No matter what they say or how sad or desperate their story is.