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Your loving, affirming attitude toward caring for your mother reminded me of something that happened years ago, when I was a caregiver in a MC group home.
I cared for a very old German lady resident with Alzheimers - completely non-verbal, totally blind, slept 20 hours a day, totally incontinent/dependent for everything, including needing to be fed, and non-expressive in any way.
One day I was leading her to the dining room for lunch, and I suddenly recalled a German nursery rhyme I'd learned 20 years prior in a language class in college.
It was the German version of " One, Two, Buckley My Shoe".
I started to sing this to her in German as we slowly walked along, and it still brings tears to my eyes to recall her huge smile, and the tears in her eyes, as I sang that silly song. It felt like something so very special...a moment of Grace for us both.
She died not long (weeks) after that beautiful moment of connection.
We may lose our loved ones (the personality we knew and mourn) to the fog of dementia, but the human shell left behind still feels, and can be connected with if we find the way.
Thank you, Ricardo, for reminding me.
I put some music on my mom liked but hadn't heard in years. She remembered the lyrics and sang. Surprised myself when I played an old Eagles song and remembered every word. Lol
It’s so obvious that you love your mom. It’s apparent that you had a lovely mom when she was younger. She is blessed to have you in her life. I’m glad that you have a good relationship with her.
Sadly, not everyone has had such a wonderful relationship with their parents and they might have a different perspective on what is best for their situation.
Wishing you all the best in life. Take care.