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How fortunate for you that there’s nothing left to spend on such nonsense.
For any sorrow that you’re feeling about ANYTHING, my most sincere regrets.
You sound like a great person.
BE WELL.
Cremation shouldn't be more than 1000 but you dont even have to have a funeral. You can also not claim the body and let the state take care of it.
Best way to shut this shit down is to ask how much money they are paying to help with the funeral costs. Good luck .
Guilt for not having spent more time with the deceased, guilt for knowing they didn't help you when you really needed it (because it wasn't the type of help they wanted to give).
Fear because death scares the poo out of them as it circles in ever so closer. Also, they want to "help" by being "helpful" (i.e. foisting an unsolicitated opinion on you) which ironically turns out to be the opposite of helpful.
I'm sorry for what you've been through and going through. May you receive peace in your heart.
I did the least expensive options for my dad and the cheapest rate I found was $1,500.00. Small town, one competitor. My stepdad was same, except it was 1k, big city, lots of competition.
Vent all you want.
My best guess would be that they were worried about payment or anyone dying from Covid was dealt with immediately. Who knows but, they could have saved me some hassles if they would have told me he was already cremated.
I bet your exs remains are long since processed, whatever the financial situation.
Mom's funeral was all pre-paid and pre-planned. We had to choose flowers, which took all of 2 minutes.
I suggested a family dinner at a nearby 'family style' diner and was told by OS that HER family didn't want to come. YB's family was having dinner brought in by neighbors for just THEIR family. YS's Dh doesn't like any of us and won't socialize with us.
My family went to the diner and had a nice meal. Frankly, after 10 days of waiting to get the funeral over with--I was exhausted and just wanted to go home and cry.
My OB died 10 years ago and the instructions he left for his last wishes would have cost about $15,000. He left this world, deeply in debt to pretty much everyone. My mom wanted us kids to pitch in for a funeral and YB said "Yeah, if he hadn't died owing me $2K I might have done that." He was cremated and his ashes distributed to his kids and my mom. My niece was driving around 2 years later with a coffee can with some of her dad's ashes in it. She just didn't know what to do with them. My mom had her 'portion' in a cigar box on top of her tall dresser. I think they got thrown away at some point.
People get weird about funerals, for sure.
People tend to want to put on a show when a loved one dies, it seems.
the Funeral Director knows me personally. Hope after 6 yrs if exs ashes are still there, he would call me. He is owed $2300 and we had people willing to help pay it so he can be buried in a Vet cemetery. SonIL called there and was told, by the son, his sister finally picked them up. Dad, senior director, says no. Exs sister has not been in contact with any of us or her family here.
My ILs had bought plots years before and already had a gravestone in place with both of their names and dates of birth. The brothers could agree to cremation - their parents wanted the whole fuss of embalming, transporting the bodies back to their home state, caskets, viewing and traditional burial. The parents had left enough money to pay for it, yes, the money would have reduced their children's inheritance.
My husband worked a compromise- he went along with doing the cremation, he insisted the ashes had to be buried in their plots. They did get a lovely memorial service with giant flower arrangements instead of caskets and a big church basement buffet afterwards.
The brothers refused to attend the memorial service. They did come to the burying of the ashes - as long as it was only going to be the brothers, spouses and children. One of them had the nerve to ask "what no minister?" My husband told him, "if you want the part with the minister, you need to attend the memorial service this afternoon".
Since it was a rural cemetery and live plants were allowed, we planted flowering bushes and placed their ashes at the bottom of the holes with the fertilizer.
The funeral home, who had arranged for the gravestone years earlier, sent the engraver by to carve in the date of their deaths.
While this wasn't what the parents wanted, at least their ashes were buried where they intended their remains to be, instead of "somewhere fun to go".