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I'm sorry you're feeling so sad and helpless. It's not easy watching a loved one decline when they are in the end stage of their illness. You've been taking care of your dad as best as you can for years.
Your right, morphine doesn't hasten death as many believe but, please know that he needs it to prevent needless pain and suffering. My dad had it given to him when he was on hospice towards the end of his Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer. I'm glad he had it because I didn't want him to have any pain - that would have been harder for me to watch than to have him sleeping/resting peacefully. He was always comfortable from that point on.
You'll need to let things take their course naturally no matter how hard it is to accept that his body is giving out. Just be there for him - their hearing is the last to go so you could read, sing, play his favorite music. Those were the types of things I did in spite of the fact that he reached the point of being in a deep sleep.
God knows what's going on - He is ultimately in control - just turn the reins over to Him and enjoy your dad for as long as he has left.
I will be praying for God to comfort you and bring you some peace as you go through each day. Take care of yourself in the meantime and your dad as well. Sending you a hug -
He's lucky to have you, and I pray for God's peace and comfort to be with you in the days to come.
Very good point about talking with the hospice social worker or chaplain. Like you said they should be giving her the support she needs - they are supposed to be in contact with the family periodically or if someone needs their help before their scheduled time, she can reach out to them.
With my dad, we had the chaplain come and now with my mom the social worker as well as the chaplain contacts me frequently to see if I have any issues I'd like to discuss. If it weren't for the pandemic, the chaplain would be visiting.