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Could you fill us in on the background a little? If you just want to get things off your chest that is absolutely fine, and I'm sure you'll hear nothing but sympathy from us; but there could be constructive ideas to be had, too.
[PS I had to laugh, seeing you posted under Elder Abuse - normally we'd assume it was the elder being abused, rather than the elder as perpetrator!]
Honestly, how often do you visit? Can you do two shorter visits instead of one long one? My other advise is to just end the visit when he gets nasty. Has this always been his personality just magnified with age?
If dad can care for himself.
If dad is safe living at home himself
I suggest the following.
*Give dad 1 maybe 2 days a week, Only as much time as is needed to accomplish what needs to be done.
*Any paperwork that needs to be done if possible do it at your house or on line if you can.
*If he begins to complain tell him that you are not going to tolerate that type of behavior. If it continues get up and leave.
*If he begins to mutter, get angry and frustrated take a break, if it continues leave.
(side comment here, if he is getting frustrated anger will often follow. If he is having problems getting his thoughts across to you and this happens often it might be a sign that he is having memory problems. It might be something you want to discuss with his doctor)
You need to set boundaries as to what you expect and what you will tolerate. He needs to respect that. (but that all goes out the window if he is diagnosed with dementia of any type)