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There is a family really needing you, that will appreciate you and let you have a voice... keep us updated... sending you lots of hugs this morning...
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Maybe it's time to find a different position. If the family is willing to give over more hours to a person who seems to be favored by G, rather than someone who provides excellent care, while they ignore the shortcomings, I know I'd rather move on.
My co-worker is useless.... so that adds to my work load.... but like LC said, we have to keep our emotions out of it.... we don't get the luxury of having a throw down like the family can do when there is a disagreement.
If you have a 'go to' person in the family, then confide your concerns with them... maybe it is being taken care of, and no one is bothering to let you know....if your family is like the one I work for.... no one is on the same page about anything ever, so, tho I have a 'go to' family member, it only seems to add to their stress, as no one will speak up....
Wish you well with this PC... this past few months have been very trying and hard for you....and I am speaking for myself here, I think sometimes I don't know when to just leave.... because I have so much invested....it is a hard choice to make, but at the same time, I am finding it next to impossible to stand by and watch some of the things going on and not having a voice....just know the duo Ladee's have your back, and we DO understand... sending you lots of hugs today.... let us know how this works out....
It's hard, I know. I'm not much of a fan of western medicine and advocate for natural treatments whenever I can ........... but any changes we make are always with the doctor's approval (can't say that doesn't stick in my craw, it does .. but .. that's the job). Hopefully, this new person can get with the program and not make life a nightmare. *crosses fingers*
Is there a lead CG between the two of you or are the two of you on 'common' ground? What kinds of issues is she creating or challenging?
The answer to all the above, in my experience is: document, document, document.
Basically, charting: as though she were a hospital patient. Note all the changes of condition. Log all your activities together. Keep a log of vitals. Record all treatments, medications, appointments, etc. Keep them in plain view, keep copies if necessary and make sure the POA is aware of your process. Suggest, if it's not already being done that all caregivers follow the same process. Actually, this is just common courtesy between caregivers, AND, is incredibly helpful when/if your client needs to go for treatment or to the ER. My co-worker and I do this and it's really an immeasurable help, especially since our client's condition is so variable .. it helps us keep the visiting nurse and the doctor up-to-date. (We even log her BMs .. we used to track her diet, due to the diabetes, but once we got used to her needs, dropped that; but still track her daily intake of fluids.)
Charting can be a royal PITA, but just consider it part of your duties. (gah .. I'd rather chart than do dishes, lol)
Keep emotions out of it. (oh, MAN, is THAT hard!!) But, take the higher ground and do NOT retaliate or give back, in kind. Just keep doing the best work you know how to do. Getting defensive only makes us seem petty and vindictive and the family really doesn't want to hear it. Our responsibility, our job is to caregive, and that's what the family wants to know is happening. Not the infighting or the catfights.
And, uh .. I speak from hard-won experience. My first three years here were, erm .. more than challenging and it took me a LONG time to just surrender: my goal was/is to give the best care I can for my client, and THAT meant I have to give ground. In the long run, it's worked out and taking the high road paid off.
Hope this helps,
LadeeC
Glad, I'm going to have a good time this weekend.... going to try and put down all the things I am powerless over and just enjoy my company.... we don't get to do that very often.... so will cherish my time.... thanks for being here... hope you get a break this weekend also.... you deserve it also... sending you hugs and lots of chocolate...
In my line of work, we usually stay until the end.... but my soul is weary.... just weary from loss and still having to put on a 'happy face' to remain professional..... thank God I have this site and great support... just could not, and would not, do this without my great friends here....hugs to you..... really into 'myself'..... just for today....
So, when hospice comes in, your care of him ends? I know you will still care for him. How long have you been with him?
Just for today. That's all I have with Gene... just today.... Hospice is being called in.... this is too soon after Stu's death..... just for today, I don't want to do this anymore.
We have joked thru the years about having a caregiver get together... why? We would all be sleeping......
Hugs to everyone, and lots of chocolate when all else fails....
thank you, LadeeM
And no, in the middle of all the tiredness and craziness, it's not like we stop and say... 'wow, I am sooooo blessed'.......but when all is said and done... we are the blessed ones.... wish I lived closer..... I would help you with mom.....families are amazed sometimes that I can take the most cantankerous person and get them to be glad I'm there....so just remember, its not like you are the ONLY one in regard to your family, you are the CHOSEN one.... sucks doesn't it..... love and hugs....