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Sometimes people act as if Happiness is knowing who to blame.
I don’t understand how some don’t realize they dishonor their deceased loved ones by denigrating the choices they made in their life.
Wishing you well Doggie Mom.
Now that being said, what concerns me more is the fact that you are already in a new relationship. Rebound relationships rarely if ever work out, and honestly you need to spend more time on healing from your recent divorce and death of your ex, before jumping right back into the frying pan, as you will get burned again.
It is much more healthy to be on your own and work through your stuff/baggage than it is to continue to carry it into any future relationships.
Please be careful, and know that it's ok to be without a man in your life. At least until you've worked through the trauma of your past relationship(s), as you certainly don't want to keep repeating past mistakes.
For full closure and for your own peace of mind, I personally think that you should write them a letter - whatever you held back from disclosing to them about Mark's health, emotional abuse, that no one provided any type of support, etc. I think you can make the letter factual without being accusatory, judgmental or defensive - just a heartfelt letter. Maybe it can be a means of closure and cleansing for you - and to move on from them in a healthy way - wishing them well.
And removing them from any contact and social media is best so you can move on. Wishing you all the best ~
I haven't heard anything from my outlaws either since my husband passed in 2016. It hurt in the beginning, but now I don't give a s#it.
I'm sorry for your loss and that being said, screw your late husband's family and anything they say. You don't owe them one word, not even one syllable of explanation for anything you do or how you live your life.
Tell your SIL and her son to go pound sand and they're not getting a damn cent from you.
When I got divorced (both times) I was on good terms with all my in-laws. More so with my first husband's family because they were more like my parents than my in-laws. My second ones (who are once again my current ones) were decent because there's a kid. Some felt compelled throw their two cents in about my life and relationships. Especially the wife of one of my husband's cousins. One day there was a family gathering and I showed up to get my son and to confront her.
I wasn't about to ruin the party with a big fight and upset my kid and everyone else. What I did was toss her her a roll of toilet paper in front of everyone and told her it was to clean up all the sh*t she talks about me.
I remarried my second husband a couple months ago and his cousin's now ex-wife was not at the wedding. Good riddance.
Also, good for you finding yourself a new relationship. Nothing wrong with that. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
As for writing a letter to the family explaining what your life was with your former husband. Don't do that. The details of your marriage are private and none of their business. He was their family and they loved him. It's not for you to demean and villify him in death to his family. You've moved on with your life and you're doing well. Let the dead rest in peace.
The best thing you can do is walk away from these cruel people and never look back.
Just wish them well. Tell them that in loss we all have complex personal feelings. Tell them you wish them well and that you wish them healed from grief. Move on.
This is your time to do your own thing. Good Luck on the job. Enjoy the new relationship but do take it slow. Enjoy being on your own. Doing things when you want to. The peace and quite being with just with yourself.
Block all those people. Your not related anymore. You owe nephew nothing.
Mark's sister has tended to get hostile towards me. When I begged for help during cancer she told me to woman up and be a wife and grow up. So, yeah I am thankful at the end, his brother helped, but glad to rid of the mess. I'm a couple years I feel my life can get sorted out, I am just terribly impatient, but finding myself again after such a long time.
May good things now come into view as you peddle away from those with toxic attitudes. Leave them in your dust!
Be very careful with the new relationship. It's usually considered wise to take a couple of years to recover from a divorce and a bad relationship before engaging in another relationship. We tend to repeat our mistakes, BTDT.
Not sure why you want to start a new relationship so soon after what you've been through. Concentrate on yourself.