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#1. It is a disgrace that you are all she has caring for her. (reading in a positive light she is totally dependent on you to care for her and it is a shame that you are doing this alone, you should have help. And what happens to her if something happens to you)
#2. It is a disgrace that you are all she has caring for her. (reading in a negative way you are not doing a very good job and she expects more. )
I would rather read this in a positive light.
But this may open a door for you to discuss getting some help so that you are not doing this all alone.
This also gives you and your mom a break from each other for maybe a few hours each week and for a time you can be a DAUGHTER again not a Caregiver.
You could even use the excuse that your doctor has said you are under a lot of stress and for your own health you need help.
If she was just being mean, and only you would know that, can you tell her you'll be resigning if she finds your help a disgrace, you would not want to embarrass her.
If this is dementia, you are going to hear things that break your heart, you have to have thick skin and remember it's the disease not your mom. I know, easier said then done.
When your (in general) child is laid out on a stretcher, you aren't going to be the top priority of everyone within earshot. No one should expect to be. That is not the time for the poor elder to reflect upon their life and go on about how it's a disgrace they have no one else. When your child (yours in general) is laid out on a stretcher, that is not the time to try grabbing attention or to solicit pity for yourself.
Who was supposed to pity the mother? The doctor and nurses? Or the OP who was on the stretcher? Come on.
It's not your fault that your mother has no one else it's her own. Parents are not supposed to be 'best buds' with their children. They are supposed to be their parents and in these situations there was usually some parentifying of the child there and that's not right or fair.
Best of luck to you.
Did she alienate certain people in her life or possibly, she's lost family members? She's incredibly fortunate that she has you - and I'm sure that she knows it!
Most importantly, please take care of your own health and wellness.
Sending very best wishes ~
When someone is getting put on a stretcher that is not the time for the elder to reflect on their life and shamelessly solicit pity (which I'd bet my last dollar was why the mother said it when she did) about how they have no one else. Boo-hoo her child was laid out on a stretcher. Not about her.
A person who will do that is usually doing so because they can't stand it if they are not the focus of attention at all times.
Ubelievable.
It reminds me of when I was going in for surgery myself. All my mother could think to say was 'What about me?' Not one word of concern for me, oh no. Her concern was who was going to do for her (even though she was perfectly capable at the time to do for herself) if I was not available.
Someone with a broken brain(dementia)often lose their filters and will say some pretty hateful things.
If you are going to be your moms caregiver going forward I would suggest getting a tougher skin, and know that it's not you mom speaking but the horrible disease of dementia.
Also know that you mom will only continue to get worse, so you best start getting her/your ducks in a row when it comes to not her care, but also all her important paperwork...POA's, Will, POLST or MOST forms filled out and the like.
You may also want to have her tested for a UTI, as that can often present itself as dementia symptoms.
I'm not sure about a "disgrace" but what will happen is that you will get stressed out quickly
. so you were being taken to a hospital?
well, maybe its time for a different care arrangement for your mom then and maybe she agrees? if you have health issues and are the only person doing the caring, its not a good scenario