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Your Brother (the rouge terrorist) has shown his true colours. Label him 'untrustworthy' (or something worse) for evermore.
I am truly sorry about your Dad's dx & condition. At the next little health event, working with your Social Worker to move him to MC may be the next plan.
Travel well.
Spoke to him on the phone and he told me my dad had dementia and cannot drive. He said he would not pass a cognitive test. So bring him in. He said I had to tell him that I did't want dad driving anymore before he can send the DMV a letter. So I did that also. Now I went to take dad to get bloodwork. He refused to go! And he refused to go to see his primary on Monday! I have no idea what to do from here.
Now my brother called him last night and I over heard him telling my dad to go back to the home and see Ashley. Gave him directions on how to get there. A place that he has been hundreds of times. Yet he didn't remember the name of the street. I knew he wanted to do what you guys said. Well, dad hung up and told me no he was not going. When I showed up today he was still in his lounge clothes so I know he didn't go. He never remembered any of that anyway. So I decided to go back to the AL and give this Ashley my 2 cents. I had a wonderful women meet me in the lounge. She explained that she was on vacation when my dad was staying there. She also said that Ashley is no longer with us! We had to let her go!!!!! YAYYYYYYYY.
I explained what had happened and that I wanted to see the tests they gave my dad since Ashley said that they is absolutely nothing wrong with my dad's mind.
Well, this wonderful women, her boss, Denise explained all the cognitive tests they do and how it all works. And that he should be placed in memory care. I think he actually liked it there and would do well. So we're working to get that done.
She then said that my brother calls there multiply times a day demanding to speak with Ashley and demanding Denise do what he says. She just tells him it's not going to happen. She never told him Ashley was fired! He also told her that he was down here in FL. I explained that he hasn't been here in 6/7 yrs. And then only to go to mom's funeral. She knows he only wants the money.
I can see a very steady decline daily and how he struggles for words when we're sitting down to dinner. And how he looks so lost when we're heading out the front door. I can't see him staying by himself much longer. And now no driving. I think he will decline further.
I know I'm in for more drama than broadway!
So how do I get him to the doc? Any ideas? Do I only need one doc to sign this form?
Thank you everyone for all of your advice again.
Sounds like his days living alone are numbered or should even be over.
Your brother sounds like a real sweetheart.
Sorry you are going through so much b.s. right now!
If you can't get in to see a neurologist soon, you can try your dad's primary physician and discretely request they give him a cognitive exam. Depending on his performance (and if 2 non-medical lawyers believed he had dementia while barely knowing him then he probably won't score well) this test should be enough for purposes of preventing him from creating a new DPoA.
Not sure how to get him to his primary. They're waiting and need bloodwork beforehand. I think he's afraid his doctor will put him in AL.
Called his doc today and he wants his driver license #. Demanded it actually. So maybe when he gets the letter from the DMV, he'll go see his primary if he thinks that's the only way to get driving again?
Heard something today that explains my brothers behavior.
IT'S EASIER TO INVENT STORIES THAN LIVE WITH THE TRUTH.
I mean the guilt of never seeing his parents and the one time he did, he treats my mom worse than a dog. So explains his hatred to me.
At least I'm getting closer to the solution. Making an appointment to visit a really nice MC facility nearby. They said he would qualify and I think he will like it there. He loves attention.