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Maybe you can actually take her by the house and take a photo of her in front.
Or get a picture of the house (either old or current). When she asks about the house bring her the photo, or ask her to tell you about it.
My father-in-law had this happen multiple times. His solution was to put her in the car and drive around the block. When she arrived she did not make the connection that this was not the home to where she was referring. She seemed pleased to be “home”, felt heard, and no battles.
I hope this helps you.
We could NOT get her to move! I advised her frustrated daughter to drive her around and when they returned I would welcome them home. The daughter reluctantly did so. And when they returned, I welcomed them home. And problem solved.
So after this lengthy story, I agree with others who suggested going for a ride "home".
I had my Mom out with me somewhere. An old friend asked her how her other kids were doing. Mom said "kids! I have no kids" and gave the woman a look like she was nuts. My Mom had 4 children and I was standing next to her. Mom had me at 21. Married to Dad for 55 yrs. The last time she mentioned any of her kids was me and my baby brother and how we were making her feel like she was crazy. We were the two who lived the closest. My sister had passed and my other brother lived 8 hrs away. I really think she thought I was her Mom. And Dad, she seemed to forget Dad early on. And believe me, he was not a man you forgot easily.😏
It's best to try and redirect her like it sounds you're doing, but sometimes you also have to use what we like to call in our caregiver support group, little "fiblets."
And that may sound like when she asks next time, "well honey you know there's some work being done right now on the house and I just don't think it will be safe for us to go right now. Perhaps it's best to wait until the work is done."
You get the picture. You have to be able to say whatever it is that will keep her calm and less aggressive.
And you stay calm too when you're explaining things to her, as our loved ones feed off our moods and attitudes, so it's important that we keep calm best we can.
Usually this is a phase that will pass, so hang on and just keep redirecting.
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