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Her brain is broken.
There is no reasoning, no explanation that will convince a broken brain.
I’m sorry.
As it’s said here on the forum: Not everything can be fixed.
Wishing you peace.
"Because she has dementia, her brain is broken.
There is no reasoning, no explanation that will convince a broken brain.
Not everything can be fixed."
Thank you for such simplicity!
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
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Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia. The reviews for her books are phenomenal b/c they are written in plain English & very easy to read/understand. Her writings have been VERY helpful for me.
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Good luck to you
You will find, if you use your search engine, a lot of information under paranoia and dementia to help reassure you that this is common, and I hope give you some hints on how to help foster a sense of control and safety for your loved one. Sure do wish you good luck.
She would use this as a tool to justify her not having a relationship with someone.
We would hire a cleaning person for her, she stole from her, hired a companion, she stole from her, her step-daughter stole from her, a nutcracker no less.
Everyone stole from her, but here is the twist she was a thief who actually did steal from her family, not once but many times. Her side of the family has not spoke to her for 35 years, nor does her step-daughter or me.
All I know is that this will not get better. My mother is in AL her stealing escapades have stopped, no money to steal (that was her thing).
After moving her into assisted living, she cut a hole in the bottom of her foot stool and started hiding things in it....a tooth brush, dirty underwear, socks, the remote. I was on a mad hunt searching for her remote control when I found the hidey hole and I questioned her about it. She said that people were breaking into her apartment and throwing parties and they must have done it.
I am not saying that the elderly are never taken advantage of, but I know that my moms stories were all in her head. I suggest doing some investigation before assuming that the family members are taking advantage of your mom.
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