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Thank you for responding. Now they are trying to claim it is not his behaviors.
I am sorry. I'm meaning they do not want him as a resident.
The previous Ombudsman stated since there was all new staff …. that she was very pleased with BIL current status. She stated that he was not having any more behavioral problems and no more falls. She stated the staff began involving him in daily activities and that he was doing great. She said this may help get him closer to home.
Therefore, I do not see what the problem is? Thanks everyone
QUESTION- Have you been given an actual DOCUMENT that describes BIL’s CURRENT level of behavioral functioning?
What you are told is not the question- you NEED that paper, containing the names and official status of who saw him, what THEY saw, and the DATE he was seen.
What the case manager stated is valuable to you as you proceed, but can be overlooked when you begin trying to build the case for moving him closer to you.
If the previous residences/hospitals/therapy sites refuse to produce a document for your use, consider hiring an independent evaluator and pay for the written report.
Continuing to hope you have good luck with this.
Thank you for responding. At this time, the only documentation that I have is from a previous Ombudsman that sent me an email stating that she was very pleased with his current status. She stated (at that time) he was not having any more behavioral issues, no more falls and that he was involving in daily activities and being showered with attention.
The SNF that he is at is the one who is sending out his paperwork (referrals). I do not know what is going on behind the scenes.
I would think his current status would help him get closer to home … they obviously don't think so. smh
This is a relatively new profession but projected to grow with the increase of an aging population living distant from family,
The manager can monitor care, medications, bill paying, dr visits, etc as required. Since he/she is answerable to you and not the government you can expect better attention to your BIL'a needs.
Thank you for responding. That is something we need to consider. Thank you so much.
Sometimes, in some cases, people can adjust to a smaller community with less personalities to deal with...
Thank you for responding. These private companies have denied him also.
Reading your replies my understanding is that BIL is currently in a SNF where he rehabbed following surgery and you are attempting to get him into an MC. Unfortunately many of the MCs are stating they cannot meet all his needs with some referencing his past bad behaviors, but perhaps not all unless that's covered in the "too many needs" language. Maybe it's not his behavior as much as his medical needs that the MCs cannot handle. You might considering re-targeting to a SNF that belongs to a continuality of care group providing AL, MC, and SN. If they accept him into the SN wing, maybe they would move him into MC later when his medical issues resolve a bit more.
Thank you for responding. My husband I and I tried to get BIL moved closer to home while he was in ALF memory care. We had the same problem.
The SNF CEO states he rehabilitated very well and that he is ready to go back to the same level of care of ALF memory care.
Thank you for responding. I already contacted NAMI. The ED there told me to call The Disability Rights or Health and Human Services.
They all just keep me in circles.
You might talk to the psychologist and explain that his past problems are causing him to be denied a new facility. Find out if they can do a report for you that addresses ONLY his current evaluation. The current rehab should be working FOR you to get him placed in a new facility near your house. They all have social workers that might be able to give you some insight. -- as well as patient notes that might serve you well to support his current demeanor.
Thank you for responding. Great advice you gave.
I am just giving the CEO of the SNF the contact information to the memory care units near home he does the referral.
If he is not a veteran, I would suggest you contact an Ombudsman in the city/county were he lives. Especially because you had him in assisted living once before.
I'm sorry, this is such a miserable thing to deal with. It puts a strain on a family, and especially a marriage. My only suggestion is "don't go at this alone". There is help through Senior/Elder agencies.
Thank you so much for responding. I spoke to the Ombudsman in the county he was in while in the Memory Care Unit. I discussed the wish for him to be closer to home. She went to visit him at the memory care unit and asked if he would like to be closer to home. He told her he did. That following Sunday night we received a phone call that he was in the hospital for emergency surgery. At that time the Ombudsman stated that this may be the best case scenario and to work closely with the discharge planner to get him closer to home. However, the case manager and social worker there stated they could not get anyone to accept him closer to our home.
Long story short …. After he finished his rehab and was ready for discharge, I received another email that Sunday Morning from the Ombudsman wanting to know if BIL was still in the same Memory Care Facility.
I explained to her the situation, however, she states there is nothing else she can do. What has she done?
Would you please tell me what Senior/Elder agents you are referring to? Thank you so much.
Unfortunately, I am in agreement with those who say to NOT take him home with you. Behavior problems do get more difficult as dementia progresses. Those that lash out when confused/scared/anxious will tend to continue to do so.
Thank you for responding. BIL is 4 hours away from home and would like he closer.
Thank you for responding. This is all about what is best for BIL. In my heart, NOBODY and I mean NOBODY should be so far away from home that they are isolated from all their family and people they know. My BIL is located 4 hours from home and not able to see anybody. That certainly is not good for him. It's about him no anyone else.
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No, everybody is letting my husband and I be a part of the decisions for placing BIL. The hospital, SNF and Long Term Ombudsman stays in contact with us. They have never denied anything to us. Everybody calls my husband and I asking for names of MC facilities closer to home that we wish to place BIL.
I actually call these places and they do receive the referrals. They just can not take him.
The SKF is sending out his referrals.
Whatever you do, don't let him live with you. This behavior will only get worse.
Sometimes a DOCUMENT can be much more persuasive as your anecdotal report.
Does he presently take ANY mood/behavioral modifiers? That too should be incorporated in a document that is describing his present behavioral profile.
I literally lucked into getting documented evidence to indicate that my LO was presenting with specific behaviors and needs, and handing a copy of the document to the agencies I needed to deal with was literally a Godsend. See if you can find some geriatric trained agency who will do this for you. Perhaps ask if the SNF can recommend someone - psychiatrist/psychologist/social workers anyone who can speak with authority to the behaviors being presented NOW.
Thank you so much for your advice. While my BIL was in the hospital, his case manager says she did not see any behavior issues. She also stated he was getting a mental evaluation while there. My husband and I stay in contact with the case manager and social worker there. They stated every referral that they sent to MC was denied.
As someone else said, DO NOT take him to your home. This will put pressure on "the system" to help. I would not worry about moving him closer to you at this time , especially since finding a place anywhere is an issue.
I have heard of instances where a patient has been "stuck" in one place while the facility searches for an appropriate placement for the patient. So it can and will be done since there is a need for it. Especially if the SNF wants him to move out, they will be motivated to find a solution.
Good luck.
Thank you for your response. Yes, I understand what you are saying I just hope they do not send him away any further. That would be awful.
I researched these Memory Care units and usually speak to the administrator of the facilities. They ask for a referral and then they deny him.
What am I doing wrong? What are your suggestions?
My husband and I have even tried Home Care (smaller setting) and they will not accept him.
I'm not sure why he is still being denied.
Thank you for your response. We are not having any problems locating a MC, we are just having problems with no one accepting him. thanks
His place at the most recent ALF has now gone, so you are looking for a new placement for him.
You're not having any luck locally to you.
Where is the SNF now hoping to discharge him to next? - or will they hold on to him indefinitely, even though he does not have ongoing nursing care needs?
I don't know if this is something you and your husband would be in a position to consider, but if push came to shove would you consider moving nearer a facility if you could find one good enough to be worth doing that for?
If he has been a behavior problem in the past, it will effect your choices for facilities. Safety of staff and all residents in any facility is a very valid and primary concern.
Have you check to see if there are care homes in your location? My mom was kicked out of memory care, on hospice at the time, because of her behaviors. Hospice recommended smaller care home which worked out better for mom. And all residents there had been kicked out of previous facilities.
Care Homes have a lower caregiver/resident ratio and, in my mom's case, cheaper. Has bro been evaluated by hospice? Maybe that could be done and the services that they provide would be very helpful.
Thank you for responding. BIL is in a facility 4 hours away. We thought it would be nice if my husband could visit him and be a part of his care plan.