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You know in your heart of hearts that you've done what is best for him and best for you, and that's all there is to it.
Reassure him that you love him and will come visit when you're able. Eventually he'll be far enough in his dementia journey that he'll forget that you placed him there.
May God bless you as you take this difficult journey with your husband.
This disease is a no win situation for BOTH of you, not just him.
Good luck.
Because he believes you are his rock, his rescuer, and he can get you to do his bidding.
Because he feel fearful and desperate.
Because his brain is broken and he cannot understand.
I am so sorry. You didn't cause this and you can't fix this and you are wise to get him now into safe care. THERE WILL BE GRIEVING. Is this not worth grieving. There will be anger and tears and begging and mourning and manipulation and desperation and despair and I mean there will be that/those for BOTH of you.
There is simply no way around the grief of this but through it.
You know you are doing the only thing you can. Be gentle with him. And understand that you will bear the brunt of this because YOU are the one he trusts to let it all loose on.
I hope he will adjust quickly. For my own brother he was so much better when he entered care. It was like all the things he had to manage and worry about were over. It was a routine that comforted him. I hope this happens for you both. My heart goes out to you and I am so very sorry.