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https://youtu.be/u5QMeQpkPhA
Teepa Snow has other videos that address this topic. You may want to investigate what she has to offer on YouTube.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/dementia-and-undesirable-behavior-changes-how-do-i-handle-dads-profanity-112079.htm
Dementia in general is a very difficult affliction for caregivers and loved ones to deal with. When an elder gets upset & starts cussing, it's more about how YOU deal with HIM that matters in getting him to calm down.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (which is a free download)
which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and
what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Here is a list of useful tips from her e-book I found to be excellent:
The “Dont's”
· Do not reason and argue
· Do not demand that they reason or problem-solve
· Do not demand that they remember
· Do not demand that they get their facts straight
· Do not correct their ideas or scold them
· Do not reorient them
· Do not think that they are being uncooperative on purpose
· Do not think that they really do remember, but are pretending not to
· Do not use a “bossy” dictatorial attitude in care
· Do not act with impatience
The "Do's"
· Enter into their frame of reality, or their 'world'
· Be aware of their mood or state of mind
· Use few words and simple phrases
· OR use no words, just friendly gestures and simple motions
· Do everything slowly
· Approach from the front
· Wait for a slow response
· Constantly reassure them that everything is 'OK'
· Keep people with dementia comfortable 'in the moment' - every
moment
· Maximize use of remaining abilities
· Limit TV or radio programs which they may feel are frighteningly
real
· Maintain privacy
· Provide a safe physical environment
Language Needs
· Use short words
· Use clear and simple sentences
· Speak slowly and calmly
· Questions should ask for a “yes” or “no” answer
· Talk about one thing at a time
· Talk about concrete things; not abstract ideas
· Use common phrases
· Always say what you are doing
· If they repeat their question, repeat your answer as you did the
first time · Give them a longer time to process information
· Wait patiently for a response
· Be accepting of inappropriate answers and nonsense words
· Speak softly, soothingly and gently
Care Needs
· Recognize that receiving personal care feels intrusive
· Reassure with your tone and manner
· Do one thing at a time
· Talk through the care “play-by- play”
· Talk through the care “play-by- play”
· Be aware of your body language and use it to communicate
relaxation and reassurance
· Be sincere
· Use a soft, soothing touch
· Be aware of the individual’s unique triggers
· Be aware that a person with dementia may not accurately judge
whether a situation is threatening to them
· They may respond to fear, pain or anxiety by defending
themselves with what we call “aggression”
· If they become distressed, stop immediately and allow them time
to calm down – don’t try to restart the activity right away
You need to change your behaviour to adapt to the dementia
because the person with the disease cannot.
Another good book is Living in the Labyrinth: A Personal Journey
Through the Maze of Alzheimer's, by Diana Friel McGowin. Learn all
you can about AD/dementia b/c knowledge is power!
Wishing you the best of luck with all you have on your plate.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/foul-language-and-dementia-97610.
I wish you luck dealing with this, but just do know that there is often little to be done about it, and ignoring it may be the best route.
Wishing you good luck.
The question is sort of like Why do all girls like pink? or Why does everyone like their beef well done?
Not everyone likes their beef well done, not all girls like pink and not all those with dementia swear.
Dementia does drop filters that people have had to live in "normal" society.
You don't pee in public, you do not walk into strangers houses, you do not fondle yourself in public, you don't swear. These are all things that people that have been in my Support Group have experienced with their loved ones.
When dementia effects the brain it can damage some parts and not others. This is why one person with dementia may lose the ability to talk while another will swear and another will become violent.