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If she assigned sister after a diagnoses of Dementia that "new" POA may not be valid. Mom cannot sign contracts. Is sisters POA from a lawyer or the internet? From a lawyer it has to be signed in front of him or his representative, witnessed and notarized. The same if done via the internet. Someone should have been in the room to witness it was Mom who signed it and notarized.
I think you need to consult a lawyer even talk to the lawyer who did sisters. Maybe he was not aware there was already a Medical POA in place and that Moms competency was in question at the time sister had Mom sign the paperwork. You maybe lucky and her POA will be revoked.
"My mom can still make decisions" you can't say that and in the next breath say she has Dementia and is incompetent. She forgot she had already assigned a POA.
Adult Protective Services said they don't follow the diagnosis of a patient who has been declared incompetent and has dementia. They will consider what the person is saying if they are able to communicate, she clearly can. Each case is different. In my mom's case given facts she can make a decision like you or I, she just won't remember why the next day and APS will intervene in situations like this. Regarding the more recent medical POA, it was signed and witnessed before a second MD had determined her to be incompetent.
Again, for now I'm just collecting info.
Thanks
We accept that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.
Have you considered, are you familiar with , TRIANGULATION? The psychology of it.
Maybe research it, as a possibility that your Mom has set things up to be this way. In order to remain in control, as much as she is able. Maybe the sibling is following your Mom's instructions?
To do this, she (your Mom), must attempt to block each person trying to help her from knowing what the other person(s) are doing for her.
Once you all become a care team, coordinate between you all and the doctors, her game of control and manipulation will become useless, and she might actually get the care she needs.
Otherwise, back away for awhile and observe.
Do you think a mentally incompetent ill person might try Triangulation to get her way?
GO Team!
There is no control, did you see that she has dementia and was declared mentally incompetent?
Suggesting we become a care team was not embraced years ago when it was needed, it's to late and the damage is done. I'm not sure how you read this but it seems that you really extrapolated several things that are not in the context of the facts I shared.
I have stepped back to observe and collect additional information from others in how they may have dealt with a similar situation.
Have you considered involving mom's lawyer in this, at mom's expense?
That would appear to be the most straightforward way of dealing with this if sibling is actively trying to block you.
Is sibling stating that is her intent?
My mom made all 3 of us kids her medical POAs, so that any of us could make those decisions; she made ONE sibling financial POA.
Being financial POA doesn't mean you become responsible for paying for mom's care if she runs out of funds, if you are worried about that.
What is the sibling's basis for disagreement, do you know?
Is s/he secondary on the financial POA?
For now, I'm trying to collect info before taking any action or changes including involvement with APS or an ombudsman. My mom can still make decisions and stated none of her children should be restricted from communicating with her Dr. and she could sign a new POLST listing all of us.
The problem with her dementia is that she is unable to recall why she made a decision so if she were to make a change with an APS or ombudsman present APS said that they would recognize the new one which would allow all of us to to communicate with the care team without being hassled by the current sibling. I still question who should be listed as the main health care insurance provider contact.
Also, I think I have the right to ask questions about my mom's care with her Dr. and the sibling asking the medical staff to tell her if I have asked anything or interacted with them and also telling them to not talk to me seems to cross ethical boundaries since my mom never wanted to block me from interacting with her doctors.
You are paying the bills from mom's monies, right?
What does it matter if sibling takes over mom's medical care?