By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
I probably need to call all 3 of the ALFs here and see if I can get her on the waitlist.
She lives in a senior citizen apt complex in case I didn't state that at the beginning. Anyway, she went Monday, but not today ( the exercise is held M,W & F).
It doesn't matter because the problem she is causing is that she keeps calling the emergency number and stating that she has no heat. When they get there, the heat works fine. This is after she reset the last unit so many times that they had to replace it. I've paid for two service calls that were unnecessary. I have a note taped to the heating unit that says to call my aunt (Auntie's request) for help with the heat, but Mom does not call her. She calls the emergency number. Anyway, she called the emergency number again last night and somehow was routed to the apt manager's boss, who, as relayed to me by the apt manager, said "If she calls again, she'll need to give her 30 days notice."
So I told Mom today she needs to find a new place to live. Maybe the new place will keep her until she qualifies for a nursing home. I am definitely not taking her in. She is already driving me crazy.
Also, the Area Agency on Aging (MAC, as it's called here) is not very helpful at all, about anything. They are either overworked or just terrible employees. I see no point in calling them for help. It seems there is no where for non-rich people to go between living on their own and a nursing home. No gap place. If she had money, I would put her in assisted living and I think she'd like it, but she can't afford it.
This is the link for Tennessee. https://www.ethra.org/programs/10/choices
You can check to see if your state has a choices program. They try to keep the elderly in their homes and out of nursing homes. Your income has to be under a certain amount to qualify. Mom has been on this program now for 2 years and it has helped me alot. I am her only caregiver. You could just look up choices program for your state.
Some folks with MCI can manage better with notes posted in various places. One woman I know put a note next to her front door: "What time is it? Stay INSIDE until 9 am." She would go to the door several times a night, see the note, and wait for morning.
Mostly when she left the apartment she would knock on neighboring doors asking if her daughter was there. After much discussion, it turned out that when her daughter was a teenager, she would duck chores by visiting neighboring children. The woman was repeating a pattern from 50 years before!
Yes on the ‘fake friend’! I have had to search and ask a lot of people for that too till I found a couple good people... she gets angry at one then I have to find another. The rates for agencies who send a CNA can be good if you meet their desired minimum hours per week. There may be churches or civic groups who have volunteers. The aging agency may have some leads.
Yes definitely try just bringing her to the senior center, once she’s there she’ll hopefully get a feel for it. I like FF’s point about them getting rigged into a volunteer duty there.
Best of luck, try some calls and visits! 💐
One time a writer said that the Staff made up a "volunteer needed" slot and that the writer's husband liked the sound of being a volunteer, so that got him to go to the senior center. His job was handling out flyers. He looked forward to see that the next day flyers were all about :)
My Mom wouldn't go because she was too shy over the fact she was now almost blind and could barely hear. My Dad wanted to go, but he wouldn't with out Mom.
Now I think I just need to make an appt. to try it out and pick her up one morning and tell her "we are going." Then she can see if she likes it or not. She definitely needs to get out of the house and she definitely needs something to do.
She is only on one medication and that is for her thyroid, and her doctor checks her blood work either every three or every six months, so I don't think she is chemically out of whack insofar as medicines or supplements.
Another idea I have had is to hire a fake "friend" to keep her company and take her with them whenever they run errands, maybe a couple days a week, just to get her out of the house. But my two candidates didn't work out. They were affordable and people that I know and trust. If the senior center doesn't work out, I will think of something eventually.
Is there a senior day care center nearby that your Mom can attend? That would give her reason to have a regular routine, and get her mind active again.
Another thing to check is what meds is your Mom taking? Something as simple as blood pressure medicine can make one feel very tired and make it hard to think straight. I had to have my dosage adjusted as it was zoning me out.