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A call to Adult Protective services might also work but if he does not allow them in they can not do anything.
I am very surprised the Hospital has not said or done anything. If he returns to the same hospital every time they should have noticed something. Without water I can not imagine that he is washing laundry often nor would he be bathing often. Can you contact the hospital and talk to a Social Worker? Or are you contacted when he goes to the hospital? If so ask to talk to a Social Worker at that time. Due to the privacy laws THEY can not tell YOU anything but you can certainly inform them of what you know. (Unless you are listed on the forms that you Dad signs that they can discuss findings with you.)
Unfortunately in many cases nothing can be done until a "catastrophic event" occurs. But we should do what we can to prevent one.
Hadn't you better contact your local social services and get their advice? I don't for a moment disagree with your decision to stop funding your father's precarious situation, I can't see what else you could have done: I'm sure you were correct that you were merely supporting his ability to reject help that he badly needs.
But it is just such a pity that your parents' marriage came to this and that his behavioural problems weren't flagged and addressed by his medical team long before. I feel for all of you especially because my own mother was diagnosed with CHF in the mid-'90s, and I swear nobody but nobody even mentioned vascular dementia until 2012 - even though it's medically well recognised as a very common result of long term heart disease. When I think how much better I could have coped if I'd had been given just a little heads-up much earlier on, it makes me want to spit.
But never mind the "if onlys". I hope you'll be able to get good, practical guidance from your local services - ideally from people who don't hope they can bully you into doing their work for them.
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