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My mother, who was legally blind, sold her auto well before necessary. She, too, lived alone and her town supplied transportation vans.
My DH and I found that we should not talk while either of us are driving. We're 74 and 76. His problem is his hearing. Trying to listen to me distracts him. Me? Guess I can't do 2 things at one time.
Like said, don't drive at night, twilight is a bad time. Don't drive during peak times. Just drive around town. When my Dad died, he owned a Lincoln continental. The car was too much for Mom so she got rid of it and got a compact.
Time slowed her down more and more.
The final straw was having a hip replacement, which helped with the pain she had, but rendered her unable to use her right leg with much strength.
When the boys approached her about stopping driving, she gave them little to no backlash.
We who lived near her told her we'd cover all her driving needs. Between my YB, his 4 daughters and my OS (very rarely) and a bunch of friends, honestly, I think she was relieved to stop.
If you've been having close calls--with red lights, left turns, parking correctly and simply feeling like you are in control--this is your call.
I use Uber and Lyft when I have a flight to catch. And when I get home, too. They have been a real game changer in many ways.
Please don't risk your life or the lives of other innocent people by getting behind the wheel of your vehicle when you know you shouldn't be driving. I would like to think that the very last thing you'd want to do is kill someone because you were in denial about your driving abilities.
Shepherd Centers and Senior Services have volunteers that will drive you to appointments, or you can call an Uber or Lyft.
Or perhaps it's now time to move into an assisted living facility where you will receive the help you need from their staff and they can take you where you need to go.
I pray you will use great wisdom and discernment in this matter, so you will have no regrets.
You may need to find a trusted neighbor or church member and create a driving arrangement with them (regular times and days of the week to pre-determined places) and you will compensate them for doing it. You can consider hiring a companion aid from an agency.
When I had to anonymously report my very elderly Aunt for dangerous driving (after which she was forced to stop driving) I enlisted the help of local relatives, neighbors and friends to take her places. I gave the drivers a GC to her favorite restaurant, enough for both of them to eat well, so then the outing also became a social opportunity. My Aunt rarely complained about losing her privilege to drive. You can do something similar.
When an elder's driving privilege needs to end, it's usually due to bad judgment (dangerous), and bad memory (getting lost), and not always a compromised physical skill (like eyesight or range of motion). Therefore, if yours needs to end due to a cognitive issue, you need to have a trusted someone who is able to end it for you (and this mostly doesn't go well due to anger). That's why I'm recommending you do it now and have a buddy who goes on this journey with you.
Someone with cognitive impairment is usually not allowed to take even the county bus services for people with disabilities -- you'd need to have a companion. It may take time to figure out who this person(s) could be so the sooner you start on this search the better. I wish you much success in finding the right people!
Please don’t drive if you are anxious about having accidents.
In my area, Council on Aging provides rides to seniors. The shuttle bus service takes seniors to the grocery, pharmacy and doctor appointments. Look to see if this is available in your area.
Wishing you all the best.
Luckily my brother didn't harm another person, but he was quite beat up.
I would say honestly that you should go to the DMV and ask for the written and driver exam to be assessed if you have questions.