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If she has high blood pressure or any other ailment, tell her the doctor must see her to give her the medications. Then, write the doctor ahead of time (or call if you can get through). Let the doctor know that you feel there are cognitive issues and describe them. It's possible that your mother has a UTI or some medication interaction that is causing these symptoms. However, likely it is dementia. Anyway, the only way to know is to get a diagnosis. Just back off for now when it comes to telling your mother you think she has dementia and try for some other reason to see a doctor.
Also yes, it sounds as though she should be in a memory unit if no one in the family can stay with her (as is most often the case). That is, of course, if there isn't a reversible cause for her disordered behavior. The doctor can help with that, as well.
Good luck,
Carol
If you have power of attorney, move to protect your mom's assets and contact the attorney that set it up. Keep him in the loop. For instance, when I took mom's silver coin collection for safe keeping, I inventoried it and sent a copy to the attorney. You could even have bank statements sent directly to him. This is important if there is Anyone that may later question your actions.
My mom had similar hysteria about 'being put away'. The ALF required she have 24/7 care for the first 30 days because of it and her threats to burn the place down. That was hard, but between family members and paid caregivers we managed. Thirty days gave her a chance to get used to the routine and make friends. I wouldn't say she loves it, but she is content. I think the change and the unknown is what she really feared and now that it is familiar she realizes there is nothing to fear.