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I am so sorry. What happened that surgery was needed? Was this a tumor, a bleed?
I wish you luck. Stay tuned here and ask us questions as you go along. Be certain for now her home/apartment is secured.
Your Mom maybe be in Rehab for quite a while. Medicare pays 100% the first 20 days, 50% the next 80 for a total of 100. (Some supplements pay the other 50%) If there is no improvement by day 100 (or they find out prior that she has hit a plateau) this is when the decision will need to be made if she will need to be transferred to Longterm care or an Assisted Living or Memory care if your not able to care for her.
Worst case scenario is she never fully recovers and needs LTC. Do you want her to be close to you so that you can help manage her affairs, if you're able? It won't be easy to do from a distance.
The caregiving arrangement only works if it works for both people.
You may need to talk to a social worker at the rehab center. Without having PoA you will need to rely on your Mom's cooperation, if she's able to communicate that to anyone. Consider taking a trip down there with downloaded PoA paperwork for her to hopefully assign you (if you want this responsibility). Most hospitals/facilities have a notary on staff to finalize those types of documents. Explain to your Mom that without her choosing her representative, the government will choose one for her and it won't be you. Otherwise, you can ask sw about emergency guardianship.
Lots of questions here...
My best answer to your question, is to determine answers to the questions I pose above, get on a plane or car and travel the four ( 4) hours to be present yourself and communicate with your mother and others in person. Are you an only child? You may also benefit from conferring with an Elder Law Attorney.
Personally, I'd wait and see what happens. It sounds like mom had a really big surgery, and at that age, it takes the body longer to recover. Hopefully after some time in rehab, she's back to herself.
However, if after some time in rehab, mom doesn't respond to care and treatment, you may have to do guardianship/conservatorship.
My advice for now is to wait and see. But if mom does make a full recovery, please encourage her to go to her attorney and set up a POA and healthcare POA, to save you the time and expense of obtaining guardianship/conservatorship should something happen where you need it.
Sometimes the aides in the rehab will know someone who no longer works full-time there but will do private duty. I found someone like that by meeting a CNA in the dining hall, and she had a list of friends who were available from time to time. They helped in the patients' homes when the patients were released. Some of these people were in nursing school becoming RNs, and they were happy to have part-time work. Ask around.
Good luck to your mom and to you.