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Even if you are the PoA it is better to get consensus and be transparent so that no one can question your motivations or actions. Also, are your SURE you want to be your mom's caregiver? Please read the many many many posts on this forum on caregiver burnout. Even by very loving, dedicated and competent healthcare professionals. Peace to you!
My suggestion is to have a family meeting with at least your opposing sisters and the brother living nearby around a kitchen table and develop a plan for caring for your mother in her home. If there's not a kitchen table readily available for a relatively neutral uninterrupted meeting, consider engaging a meeting room somewhere; I like late lunches in restaurants because emotional people have better behavior in public spaces than in family homes and the venue doesn't mind if you remain at some corner table during a slow afternoon. This meeting is primarily an educational session for your siblings so provide as much outside documentation as your can; do not expect your siblings to value the unsupported knowledge and experience of their younger sibling.
Consider having the Area Agency on Aging do a needs evaluation and bring the results to the meeting. Research some adult day cares, in home care agencies, AL/MC, NH and their costs (AAA may be able to provide a lot of this info). Provide a print out of the Alzheimer's stages from something like Alzheimers.net and ask the siblings to consider what stage your mother is now and what help Mom is going to need as she transitions to the next stage. Come up with a list of tasks where Mom currently needs help (like medication management) and who/how is going to handle it. I suggest planning a second session to develop a plan for support tasks Mom is going to need as she declines into the next stage in a week or two - give your siblings time to think things over.
I suspect that sometime between the two family meetings, some attitudes will start changing as your siblings face up to the commitment of their own time and/or money to provide your mother's care. When that window opens, be ready to discuss your care plan for your mother living in your home.
At some point, there needs to be a discussion of how to finance Mom's LTC when that is needed. Your siblings need to understand that regardless of the provisions of your mother's will, her assets (including her house) will need to be liquidated to fund her care whether those funds are spent on NH fees or in home care hours covering at least time for you to work and sleep.
If you have POA, just do your plan, you need not ask