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My husband retired a year ago, and we were going to travel. Then, Covid happened. We've pretty much done nothing since the beginning of last July.
We were going to move out of California, but we did know we'd wait until my parents passed before doing that, since I'm the one in charge of their finances. My dad died in 2018, and my mom, who we thought would go long before Dad, is still with us. I've only just now started being able to see her in person again in the past couple of weeks, but she doesn't really know me anymore. She did before Covid and the lockdown.
Once I took over everything for my folks I realized that neither of them had to do any substantial caregiving for their parents. My mother's mom died six months after being diagnosed with lung cancer when Mom was 36. We lived 250 miles away and my parents had two small children, so she couldn't help to any real extent. My grandfather remarried a much younger woman who did all the caregiving until he died in 1983. My dad's father was never in the picture, and my grandmother died 24 hours after being diagnosed with cancer. She'd had a few health issues, but she plugged along independently before cancer.
My parents had a wonderful 30 years of retirement and were able to do anything they wanted. My mom's health issues brought their traveling to an end for the most part by the time they were about 88, but they were both completely knocked for a loop when she first got sick, because their parents weren't really sick for a very long and they weren't there with them.
What I hope for retirement after Mom passes is to be able to find some enjoyment in it and forget the years of caregiving at least to some extent. It's a little like childbirth -- you have to forget it before you're ready for the next baby. I don't want to spend the rest of my life dreading the end of my life.
The only downside, is don't be too independent. Be aware when you need help. That when that house gets too much, time to downsize. Downsize could mean an apartment, an Assisted Living. Your children will be more likely to help if you make things easy for them.
You will compromise . But, I don't think you will ever have problems because you have a great attitude.
Wish my friend had been this way. She never took advantage of resources out there. She expected friends to act a certain way. And because of her passive-aggressive tendencies she alienated her boys. Her last 6 months of life would have been so much better if she hadn't been so negative.