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If she is frustrated by lack of sleep you could tell her this will help. That is the truth. Has she ever been on any medication for her moods? My mother is on a variety of medications for her health. When she tried to refuse them I told her that they were keeping her alive and a specific problem would come back if she did not follow the doctors orders.
I am sorry for what you are dealing with
If she is under your roof I would suggest an ultimatum indicating that if she lives with you there are guidelines. I realize it may not be pleasant confronting her with this issue but the present situation certainly isn't. I hope you are able to get some relief.
I would recommend getting her a geriatric psychiatric doctor to help find the right meds for her.
Maybe her insurance can get one to come to the house and use therapeutic fibs to get her treated.
Great big warm hug! I can't imagine how hard this is for you. I have found that my mom stops when I tell her that she is behaving in an unacceptable way and enough is enough. Doesn't last long but works every time. Use whatever amount of force it takes for her to hear you. Sometimes we have to raise our voice or come across angry to get the point across, that is okay to do.
Your mother sounds like she may be on the dementia road, actually...........behavioral changes can be indicative of such a thing. My mother has mental illness *has for the 63 years I've known her* AND a case of moderate dementia going on at the same time.........so it really makes for a horrible situation all the way around. When speaking to your mother's PCP, bring up your concerns in both areas (depression AND dementia) and see what s/he has to say. Also, pay attention to any changes you see happening with her..........is she having trouble with knowing the day of the week? Memory problems? Putting things in odd places? Write it all down.
If the doctor prescribes medication and mother dear refuses to take it, I'd issue her an ultimatum: take the medicine or move into Assisted Living, YOUR CHOICE. Because you need to be DONE being a doormat for bad behavior. Nobody has the right to treat you badly, even your mother. I placed my mother in Assisted Living back in 2014 (she's 93 now) because there was no way on earth I was going to live with her and put up with hideous behavior 24/7.
Remember; YOUR life is important too. This is not just about your mother, nor should it be. It's not okay to be suffering every day in your own home.
Wishing you the best of luck getting mother medicated or into residential care.