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Sadly chances are your dad will be put in the psych ward..where more environmental changes occur and they will give him psychiatric drugs so he won't lash out again..I think after several occurrences they kick him out of the nursing home due to the liability.
Now my mom has severe Alzheimer's (now end of life stage) and through the 20 years of this I never had to resort to any kind of psychotropics. Routine care was the key..and I kept her moving as I took her to the park daily and walked her. If she acted crazy back to the park and walk her and she would settle down afterward. But am her only caregiver . I also think due to this routine exercise she managed to live all these years but she really is near of life. Her body is wore out and insulin dependent diabetes did not help matters..in a few months she will be 90.
since a couple of days have gone by, you might have better info on what prompted the aggression- oftentimes staff may try to direct the resident against their will say to use the bathroom or shower
during the past three years, I've seen firsthand some over the top behavior and it has to really get out of hand in order to call 911 for a psych hold
unfortunately with dementia, aggressive behavior occurs in both men and women and meds are necessary- for this reason, some memory care facilities will not admit residents with this issue which makes placement challenging
When mom at nearly 93 managed to elope and put up a fight with staff trying to get her out of the street, her facility threatened to call 911 - gratefully this didn't happen and while it was a rough couple of months, with UTIs and changing her from one antipsychotic med to another, she became more manageable although at 95 and now immobile, she is still a handful and doesnt want anyone to come near her
Very compassionately answer.
You need to request two meetings; one with the facility's physician and a care conference with as many staff who interact with him as possible. Don’t automatically assume and worry that they’re going to throw him out. But make sure that you are proactive about letting the staff know you are aware of his behavior and want to work with them to help him.
My mom was on hospice at the time and hospice recommended an excellent care home where there was a much better resident to caregiver ratio and it was cheaper too. Smaller, homier place for mom. She probably would have been better cared for there from the very beginning. And this care home all residents had been kicked out of their previous facilities. Can you imagine?! But, it worked well.
Dad's facility may request the he be admitted to a Geriatric psych facility to try different meds to see if they can come up with some combo to help dad. Has he been checked for a UTI recently? Sometimes that alone can push them over the edge.
Realize that dad's facility wants what is best for dad and others. Another move may be in the near future. If he goes for a geriatric psych assessment the current facility may decide to not allow him back. Time to look for help. If he is not on hospice you could certainly call one and ask if they have any recommendations.
Just checked your profile, mom passed just five months ago? Dad's behavior may very well have something to do with mom's passing. When my mom was asked to leave it was four months after stepdad passed. Maybe she just knew something was not right but unable to understand or process feelings of grief. Who knows.