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Both of the previous caregivers told me that the family counted every penny as they do the grocery shopping and they didn't get paid for some extra hours but the payment gets deducted when they have to come late and the family suspect them or accuse them of eating the food in the house which they don't. So I give them an accounting of all the expenses with Excel spreadsheets, photo of each purchase and receipt. I use my own vehicle to shop with no mileage or gasoline reimbursement, and I do it after or before working hours. I also try to fit to get everything the patient needs within a very small budget that included her personal stuff and not just the grocery by picking items from different stores, wherever they are cheaper. Last year, I was able to put a Christmas tree and all its decor for the patient's house to cheer my patient's up, out of the money I saved. I am also a great cook as I love cooking and give the patient a well-balanced diet. I don't believe in a shortcut with food flavouring as I believe that elderly needs healthier cooking so I used natural ingredients and spices. I take photos of each meal I serve so they see each portion and what their loved one eats. I include that in my detailed report. The house is a big 2 story and I clean it, including all the windows. I have a reliever whom I always coach because she often gives our patient ramen and she brings canned food instead. The patient also does not listen to her and she hardly can get her to take a bath, but she always does for me.
I am also very organized and have organized everything in the house that made working and finding stuff very easily.
I detailed everything that is done at home on each report.
I do it because that's just how I am. I wanted to keep my house cleaned and organized and I would love to receive a detail report from my caregiver if I have one so I do what I would want others to do to me.
Well, you're not alone, I believe there are many of us. I did not get a Christmas card either, with at least a thank you note. I am sorry for sharing much and hope that this can somehow give you a little comfort knowing that you are not alone.
And when it comes to doing more than expected, I've observed that in almost every workplace there are people who do all the little extras, from shovelling snow off the walk to stocking the break room to logging unpaid overtime, and the longer they do it the more it just becomes expected of them. Unless you are prepared to suck it up indefinitely or move on I agree that it is time to have a sit down with the family to revisit your contract.
Stop doing unpaid hours: rudeness stops being something you should rise above as soon as it costs you money. If you really can't leave on time, because it would leave your caree at risk in some way, then at least log your hours accurately for, say, up to a month and then bring it to the family's attention: "there is a consistent overrun of seven or eight hours each week, and we need to revisit the contract."
When I used to have a paid caregiver cover for me on Saturdays, she always greets me first with an enthusiastic good morning and a big smile. I just automatically respond back to her. If she didn't do this, I would have treated her with solemnness. I learned to say 'thank you' after the home nurses and other caregivers were done with bedridden mom - from my dad. I don't think I would have thanked them because - that's their job. So, I followed Dad's example and started thanking people - even if it's their job to do so.
If you feel it's important to feel appreciated and you don't think you would lose your job, you can very, very tactfully mention that usually in this job, you're only required to give them the bare essential updates. That because you have bonded with your client, you're willing to work for a lower pay than your usual fees... That you don't even charge them for the extra hours you worked for them. It would be nice to be shown appreciation once in a while... I don't know. I don't think I have the Oooomph to do this!