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If she goes to bed before you do you could check out her room while she is getting into bed and "declare it safe".
If mom is a religious person you could give her an item that would make her feel safe. A Cross, a Rosery, a Picture.
If she is not religious maybe a blanket or a doll that can comfort her.
Can you talk to her doctor about meds that will help with anxiety? It can't be comfortable for her being scared.
Toward the end of her life, my mom had some difficult difficulties with sundowning. She would see or hear. people in the house, cars trying to park in her bedroom, and children climbing on the walls were just a few of our adventures/crises. I had to develop a bag of tricks because I never knew what was going to work from time to time. Redirecting worked sometimes, but I often had to find new and unusual ways to redirect her. Showing her that things were not as she seemed was only occasionally effective. For example, I could turn on the light take her out of bed and show her that there were no cars. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes after the light went off, the cars came back. Sometimes it helped to have someone else come over to the house for a visit. But in the late evening that was often not possible.
Medication for anxiety did make the hallucinations less frightening for mom which made it easier for me.
Good luck! Know that you are doing a wonderful job! And never forget that you are not alone!
As for your Mom, one suggestion would be to get some "night lights" for her bedroom (I have them as a totally dark room can be unnerving) and tell her these special lights will scare away the monsters under the bed. If that works for children, hopefully it will work for your Mom. Worth a try.
https://www.agingcare.com/topics/19/sundowners-syndrome
I also recommend Teepa Snow videos on YouTube, and meds for anxiety.
I agree with Daughter of 1930 - This must be very frightening for her.
Talk to her doctor about medication for anxiety.
I tried a lot of different anti-anxiety meds for my husband before finding what worked. Be careful of some which are habit forming. Once the patient gets used to the drug, they will start to act out because they are craving the next dose. Especially if a dose is missed, or is late.
What we finally settled on is Trazodone. A small dose is enough to relax him which helps him sleep, and it is non habit forming. I use it only at bedtime, unless he is particularly unsettled during the day.
Also useful is a modest dose of Inositol powder. Similar results.