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Or was the home sold for far below market value?
Daughter who was POA and got her mother into this situation is now responsible for her mom's care.
I'd drop her off this afternoon.
Your MIL was living in her own home? with her daughter as her primary caregiver.
Your MIL sold her house to your BIL? Or the POA daughter sold the house to your nephew?
What happened to that money?
How did MIL come to wind up living in *your* home? And when?
Where are your sister in law and your brother in law / nephew now, are you in touch with them, and what have they had to say for themselves?
If not, draw your line in the sand NOW and stand firm.
Mother lived with daughter in daughter's home. When did mother move in to daughter's home?
Daughter "sold" mother's home to daughter's son, your nephew. Except that no money has changed hands. So in fact there has been no sale: no consideration = no contract. Where is the documentation? Is your nephew now living in the house?
The house is the big asset that is causing most of the gifting trouble. It is worth at least *arguing* about it, at least finding out who legally owns the dam' thing.
Back to our narrative. In August 2016 Daughter has a meltdown: do you know if this was for any reason besides the strain of caregiving? She tells DH to collect MIL. DH does so. Since then, MIL has been living with you, and things are now getting unmanageable.
Where is Daughter?
Where is Nephew?
When did you last hear from either of them?
There must have been some kind of contract, and the title, home insurance and contract, must have been documented with the county, shouldn't it have been. I think SIL and Nephew are making up stories, or stalling for some reason, as this part of the story makes no sense. Handshake deals are not worth their weight, when it comes to working with government agencies! I'd be demanding to see the documents, as MIL has needs of her biggest asset to live on for the rest of her life, the sale of her home, like the rest of us!
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