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If BF does not want to participate maybe its time for him to move out.
I'm wondering is the boyfriend is a freeloader?
Unfortunately, the boyfriend's lack of decency & petty rubbish on Fbook is not within your control, unless it is abuse that it is against the law.
Can you discuss his behaviour directly with him? Or failing that, with your Brother (privately)?
Maybe boyfriend feels like he does all the work & you waltz in just for the occasional appointment? Who knows unless he TALKS, not just act out. Can he be an ADULT & tell you or your Brother what's eating him? That would be a start.
This is the "harassing" email I sent to a decision maker, personal and work:
"Per the messages I left on your voicemail, your mother fell and refuses to use her lifeline. She is on the floor and due to past abuse accusations by you, I refuse to get her off the floor. As you state, she has choices and her choice is not to push the button.
I have had to care for her last few weeks without aides because you have not fulfilled your duty as POA in making sure she has help after her agency closed. This is not my responsibility. M is asking me to is not an excuse even though according to your mom it is.
Furthermore, you have not seen or bought your mother diapers, food, supplies in four months. As that is another of your responsibilities you have thrust on me. Attached are receipts for reimbursement.
Please feel free to swing by at your earliest convience to get your mother off the floor. Please use the side door since only wanted guests should come in the front. The trash is on the side.
Stacy"
Just saying, no one should blame BF when he lives in the home and we do not know what the harassment is. Picking up prescriptions and finances are not the same as being in the home taking care of an elder.
When it comes down to it though, its up to your brother to kick him out. I would not go over without my husband.
You also posted this:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-brothers-partner-is-starting-to-harass-me-should-i-involve-my-83-yr-old-father-in-the-situation-461634.htm
YOU shouldn't be accepting abuse while caregiving.
Talk to brother, if he doesn't put you ahead of his BF, then that is telling. This is wrong, on a lot of levels. You shouldn't have to deal with the BF AT ALL. You're not related, I don't even consider myself related to my MIL and I am married to her son.
If you are POA, you can call Elder Abuse--YOU! (I am assuming you are in your 50's to 60's) Does your dad have his wits about him enough to help out with sticking up for yourself?
As far as FB harassing, that's just juvenile.
Can you have dad give POA to brother? Wash your hands of it? Sounds like you do care for dad, you're just upset with brother. But this BF is making it unpleasant to do your CG.
There probably isn't even a REASON the BF is a jerk. Some people are just mean.
I'm so sorry for your situation.