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If she is of sound mind you can not make her, force her to see the doctor.
You can gently try to convince her to go.
You can tell her that you just want to make sure that everything is alright because you would hate to have something happen to her because you love her.
If this is the only problem you have with your mom it is certainly not worth getting into fights or arguments over.
Has she decided she's done will all that? No more pills or tests? Do you think that's what she's telling you?
You are SO RIGHT about the concept of NEEDING CARE. My mother had what the neurologist identified as a fatal stroke when she was 85, and I KNEW IT when I talked to her on the phone the night it happened, and I WAS AFRAID TO TAKE CHARGE.
By the Grace of God, we muscled her to the hospital the next day, and she had 5 more relatively good independent years alone in her own home before a shattered hip sent her into a long surgery from which she couldn’t fully recover.
This was a woman who had NEVER had appropriate medical care because of her severe anxiety. She lived her whole life on Vick’s Vaporub, Milk of magnesia, Bayer aspirin, and Sloan’s Liniment.
I wanted her to have a crack at independence, but I also knew when I HAD to become the heavy, and then, I DID WHAT I HAD TO DO.
As to the question “What can I do......?”, the answer is —- THERE IS NO GOOD ANSWER. You CHOOSE how you decide to go, you take the steps to facilitate what you’ve planned, and you reassess how things are going with the attempt.
At a certain age, some caregiver’s attempts will go wrong, some will be wonderful. If you are operating with sincere love, respect, and knowledge of your LO, it’s at least a 50-50 shot that you’ll have done the right thing.