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Re the facility - how about choosing the one you feel would be the best suited to your Mum's needs and likes, people she will mix with, place you feel comfortable with, and getting her to do a couple of weeks respite whilst you go away. Change is always daunting, but if it is thought to be temporary it is much easier to cope with - once she has tried it and if they can keep her then you can lengthen stay for some reason or she may decide it is far more interesting than she currently has.
Good luck, and best wishes. I hope she finds somewhere she likes, and you can visit as a loving daughter not a worn out stressed out carer.
Next time bring some treats and ask him to invite them to the dining room to share. He will be the prince charming of the facility and you will get to meet his new friends.
Maybe your mom would have an easier time knowing that if she did choose the wrong facility that she can move.
An AL nearby had a respite room available so I suggested she stay there for a week or so to see what life there could be like for her. After that experience she agreed that she was struggling alone and did like the company, also the laundry, housekeeping, and catering!
So I put together a list of places in our area and we visited each one, had lunch and a tour, talked to residents, etc. Mom selected the one she felt most comfortable in and a month later we moved her to her new home.
I think the thought of clearing out a home and life is daunting to the elderly. Mom and I tackled it one closet and one drawer at a time. We had a system to decide what to keep, what to toss, and what to give away. I also rented a small storage locker nearby and put most of the things she wanted to keep there so I could stop and pick things up if needed.
I reassured her she could keep anything she wanted, it was hers after all. As a middle child of the Depression her belongings were valuable to her.