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Coping skills? How about us helping to figure out an alternative to this situation?
Where was your mother before she moved in with you? Do you have siblings? If so, where are they in this picture? It sounds like your mother needs a higher level of care than you can provide.
I had to stay with my mother for just over a week once a few years ago when she became nearly helpless with muscle pains in her back and shoulder. It was horrible. While she did sleep all night, the rest of the time she was whining and obsessively ordering me around, micromanaging and controlling every little thing. When my husband watched her while I went to Mass, I stopped and got a box of cookies and started furtively eating them from the stress.
Gaining 38 pounds in 5 months is almost 2 lbs/week, which is 7000 extra calories/week, which is 1000 extra calories/day. That's a lot of stress eating, because that's a lot (TOO MUCH) stress for you.
I say find a facility for your mother, and get your health back.
My own doc told me I was pre diabetic, if I lost weight and got my sugars under control he would remove the class from my chart. So I am doing that! I feel much better now, no headaches. 2 weeks to my next check up.
There are a lot of good channels on you tube for low carb low sugar cooking and eating. If everyone else in the house does not like the way I cook I have a solution.... move out!
If you can fnd a way to eat better, make it fun and a challenge to try new ways of cooking low carb low sugar you will feel much better.
Stock up on lower calorie substitutes (like popcorn instead of chips)
Get some exercise,even if it is just a walk around the block, it lowers stress hormones and ups metabolism
Get some time for yourself as often as you can, schedule it in and make it a priority
I don't know, I haven't quite figured it out. I started working out and did it for almost 2 months straight and gained more weight was quite discouraging, so I haven't been working out. (sigh). I know also the lack of sleep stresses us out and that doesn't help us overcome this.
I hope someone will have some good suggestions for you, that might also help me. I just wanted you to know you are not alone in this.
Will keep you in my prayers.
Even after my parent's passed, i still don't exercise. I know walking is THE best thing, but I hate to walk alone.... [sigh].
One day, I bought a hot air popcorn popper. I'd eat at least one huge bowl a day, no butter, just plain, to help me with my enormous nervous energy. That took care of my craving for the Ding Dongs. Great fiber too. My dogs loved it too and we trained with the popcorn as a treat.
Since Mom passed last month and I'm back home, I'm doing much better. I still go to popcorn if I have the urge to chow down and want to avoid junk food. Since I switched to popcorn some months ago, I've probably lost 10-15 pounds. In fact, since I've been back a lot of people commented I look like I've returned from vacation--a real shock considering how bad off I was/still am from the terrible stress.
I'm surprised that you are not as skiny as a stick. From the way you describe your various meals, I thought you would be.
There are "rules" for everything. Why does this woman have to tell me how to put things in her grocery cart? (Of course I am the one who takes them out!) She even lectures the cashier to put the cold items in her insulated reusable bag with the blue ice (these cashiers at this store know what to do already). And the insulated bag is unnecessary, as I bring her right home afterwards.
Lately she's been commenting on my driving, and that really gets me annoyed. She can't see well, can't hear, has no depth perception, and feels free to direct ME?
The good thing about the 8 days/nights caregiving stint I did for her a few years ago is that it showed me that I will NEVER do that again. If she injures herself like that again or if for any other reason needs someone with her, my three brothers can take turns or else she can hire caregivers.
FF, twice got walking partners advertising in the apt building, at church, etc. Worth trying.
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