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In my opinion, I don't think you should. It is an adventure that can turn out to be a pandora box. My dad was like a child. He would wander off, he would become agitated when it was time to leave.
BEST of luck
What you want to do is keep things as routine as possible with your father. Change is what confuses them; disrupts their minds even more so than usual, and creates agitation and mayhem. You'll need to take over the decision making for him so he's unable to move again when and if the mood strikes. Moving around is a bad thing and only adds to the terrible confusion already going on in his head. It really sounds like what he needs is a Memory Care environment rather than a room in a retirement home, especially if he isn't monitored and has access to the outside world. If he can leave and walk the street, he may just do so and then the big troubles can start. He needs a safe place where he can't get out or cook or have access to cleaning supplies, etc, where he can hurt himself by not understanding present dangers.
Instead of thinking about taking him back to his childhood home, start thinking about where he'd be best off, safety wise, and look into placement asap. Dementia/ALZ only worsens with time and it's a good idea to have him situated in a safe place before the big troubles set in, you know? I don't know if the 'retirement home' he's in now has a memory care section, but that would be a great place to start if they do.
GOOD LUCK!
My husband's grandmother had dementia and was in memory care. Grandmother's daughter thought day trips would be a fun thing to do. Unfortunately, this backfired. Grandmother thought she had gone out of town, or that she was moving away. When she'd come back to her room, she'd be disoriented about where her bathroom was, what town she was in, etc. Even taking her to lunch and back became too disorienting. It's so important for such elders to be in a routine as much as possible. You mean well, but this does more harm than good.
Going by places he used to be, but can no longer go to, may not be a great idea. Sometimes elders get reminded of the 'old days', and it makes them sad to know they can't go back and realize what shape they're in now. He may not understand why you're driving him by there but not letting him go inside.
Thank you for your thoughts.
This will open opportunity to learn some of his old stories, let him reminisce but not make him face drastic changes to places he recalls.
Best of luck to you.
hugs 🤗
Has he been checked for a urinary tract infection? These can cause dementia symptoms and other distressing symptoms in seniors. Moving could have caused him to forget to take care of himself and he may very well benefit from a complete physical to rule out any medical conditions that he may be experiencing.
I encourage you to do enrichment activities with him, but avoid the places he is obsessing on, it could escalate the situation for multiple reasons. Do things that are fun and pleasurable in the moment to help him feel happiness. Create memories for yourselves with him.
I still regret, 20 years later taking my mom past her old home for just one look. I could read the flash of memories on her face, a momentary joy for both of us, then driving away, the joy being replaced by the resignation that it would never again be hers.
taking him out for trips while he can still enjoy things is nice idea but he won’t remember or recognize the old places because he remembers how they were, not as they are now. Plus, any kind of traveling now is risky.