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Mom is progressing very fast ,she has hallucinations, and she says that she wakes up and her Dr. is standing beside the bed ,she thinks he is very handsome, but he comes over a bit too often lately and he moved next door ,she is also very paranoid, either someone is stealing from her or breaking in to her house ,but house alarm doesn't go off ,
She set off her house alarm and she won't turn it off, the alarm company called her to see if she was alright she said yes ,but she kept turning the alarm on and leaving it go, the police checked on her , she received a 50. fine ,but she went to police station and screamed and cried until they ripped it up
I am trying to get her into a care facility, but because she is having trouble taking her own meds she can't go into assisted living , I am taking her to see a seniors psychiatrist at the end of the month and hopefully we can get her on the right meds and get the temper and aggressive behavior under control
Thank you for your replies !!
I do remember once prior to her NH admission I had driven 4 hrs to see her and once there she said so many mean things to me I just got back in my car and drove 4 hours home. That was my fault in not recognizing the progression of her disease as this was pretty early on.
Try not to take these outbursts seriously-as stated, her mind is broken. Do what you can to diffuse the situation but realize you may not always be able to do so and work on developing your own skill set to deal with this as they probably won’t improve.
I can think of a few horrible episodes with my mother and still, 5 years later, they send a shudder through me.
I am so sorry you are going through this as I know how disheartening it is. Dementia is a horrible disease.
I both sympathize and empathize with your situation. I know personally the pain that mother causes when she turns all her wrath on you. During some of my darkest times, just posting a question on this forum is immensely helpful because you can speak your feelings to people who understand.
Just keep repeating to yourself "This isn't about me, this is about her".
I am hoping that my father can get into an inpatient geriatric psych unit and they can figure out the best meds for him. Then they should be better able to find a facility that can handle him. I was told that he had been very rude and disruptive at the nursing home to the staff and other residents so he definitely needs medication. While he was still at home I just had to avoid him as much as possible but it was horrible because I felt like a prisoner in hiding. He also has insomnia and was in and out of bed around the clock so I couldn't plan anything around his sleep schedule.