By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Stop putting the rest of YOUR life on hold and look into placement for your mom where you can go visit her every day, if you so desire. It's okay to look after yourself and your husband now; nowhere is it written you have to lay down your own life to care for a demented mother at home to your own detriment.
Good luck realizing that your life matters too!
Your Dad did not know the future. He cared about you as well as your mother. He would not want you to be like this. He would trust and want you to make your best decision on what is happening now, to you as well as to her. Have trust in him that he would understand what commonsense needs you to do. And trust yourself to value your mother, yourself, your husband and your marriage. Have courage, Margaret
It's time to get your life back. Start looking at places. I bet if you start to look that it will help you feel hopeful. Good luck.
As for your mom, you know what I will say....time for AL. When I finally got my brother convinced, our mom tested with higher needs than we anticipated. Right now she has gone to a dementia facility for rehab after broken hip surgery and fingers crossed, will return to AL but to a smaller, lockdown wing although not in full memory care yet. It has been a lot to do and take in ever since her initial move but every day my brother and I comment on how her staying at home even with one of us would have made life impossible. You are walking the path that we didn't take. It is understandably difficult. The home is good about precautions for covid. We had a 2 week lockdown due to a case on campus but almost every patient is vaxxed and all staff is vaxxed.
See All Answers