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Seriously though, when you consider what a long life that is. When my Mom was transitioned to nursing care she was in her early nineties. I would always find her sleeping when I came to visit. I was alarmed as you are and was always trying to get her to mingle with the other residents. But then I stopped to consider the state that most of the other residents were in and could not blame Mom for not wanting to leave her room.She lived a long, full life. She raised seven children on her own, worked till she was 68, lost a son to a mental disorder, lost another to death, had various physical ailments, not to mention dementia. Reading was one of her greatest pleasures and she could not do that anymore, she could not follow the t.v. programs, so I don't blame her for sleeping all the time. I would and probably will do the same if I live that long.
I understand your concern but I would say, just let her sleep if it makes her happy.
She could walk outside of her place and find others (she lived in independent living), but she chose to stay in most of the time. So I think it's common for people in their 90s to sleep much more. She'd tell me she didn't nap, but when I'd walk in, she'd be dozing in her chair. Or in on the bed napping.
How wonderful to still have your mother at 94! I am sorry that she is blue. This is a very common circumstance for the very old. Think of the losses she has suffered. In addition to the loss of her home-which comes with the loss of autonomy and not having one's familiar possessions, she probably has lost most of the people she has known in her life. There is no one alive (I am guessing) who knew her as a young woman.
She has reason to be depressed. You can certainly consult a MD. I am hesitant to recommend more meds for anyone over 75 who is taking 3 or more medications already. They can cause interactions that are not worth the risk.
And, in my experience, a pill will not cure her depression.
Increased sleeping is not uncommon as dementia advances. And it brings her relief from her loneliness.
Unfortunately, not all problems have a medical solution.
Best of luck to you,
Margaret