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Don't expect miracles - your husband is in denial and wants to stay there. But a geriatrician will test for other possible causes of his cognitive issues, as well.
Good luck,
Carol
Agree with him that it's normal not to do well on the tests, and that they are no fun. You and I as caregivers have it hard, but honestly, I would rather be doing this for 20 years than to have dementia myself. If (whenever you aren't going crazy) you can pull back from the aggravation and feel compassion for the hard time he has to go through, then for a little while it will be easier to comfort and love him. I can only do it some of the time, but it feels great when I do. Then I get overwhelmed and angry again. No saint here!
Your husband may ultimately benefit from a specialist following his dementia, but he will need a primary care doctor, too. I highly recommend a geriatrician. And that may be a good direction to take now.
As the disease has progressed she has stopped watching TV, reading, etc. and easily loses track of time/dates. She no longer has interest in nearly everything and prefers (finds comfort) in just sitting or sleeping within her dreams/memories/delusions.
Its harder for you because your husband is only 66 and his stroke likely contributed to the impairment. See the geriatrician and work with him. Not much use in trying to force reality on your husband; but you will need to care for yourself, find someone to talk to who understands and can help you vent/cope as you and he become frustrated. Try to keep him stimulated to maintain his mind/interests for as long as possible but also remind yourself that you can't turn back time and expect him to behave or remember as he once did. Also, educate yourself about future options for caregiving, in home/ out of home help, memory care, costs, insurance, etc. to give you peace of mind even though you won't be using these things till in the future.